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I hope I don't sound horribly general when I say this....but I'm getting SO frustrated lately! Why does it seem like all guys want is sex? Are there any nice guys out there or are there just guys that are better at acting nice when their real motive is to get inside girls pants??
I want a guy that falls in love with me for my body, mind and soul....NOT just my body. Is that possible or am I just dreaming? I dated this guy for 7 months and just now I find out that he was really a jerk who only wanted my body. Wonderful...story of my crappy life....girls, guys....tell me how it is...is this just the reality of the world or what?
Ok...you say your guy loves you for the right reasons. But how do you know? Is there a way of telling that he wants more than your body?? Is there a way I can tell early on in a relationship whether a guy is scum or a "nice" guy or what? Sorry if this sounds like a dumb question but I'm really confused about this and need all the help I can get.
There are plenty of wonderful men out there. The problem is that their natural habitat is not where you normally find men. They tend to be a shy species. It's the dickheads that have a high profile.
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There are plenty of wonderful men out there. The problem is that their natural habitat is not where you normally find men. They tend to be a shy species.
Hrm, seems you really do understand.
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Are there any nice guys out there or are there just guys that are better at acting nice when their real motive is to get inside girls pants??
I doubt any of my ex's pants would have fit me. I'm not cheap, I can buy my own pants. I ultimately lose a relationship because I look towards the future and plan ahead. Most girls my age aren't ready for anything serious, they just want to have fun.
dreaming4ever
I dated this guy for 7 months and just now I find out that he was really a jerk who only wanted my body.
The warning signs should be clear. If he hangs out with jerks, he probably is one. If he lies to other people, he would probably lie to you. If he doesn’t respect other people, he probably won’t respect you. If it is too good to be true, it probably is.
A nice guy doesn’t have to convince you that he is a “nice guy.”
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I ultimately lose a relationship because I look towards the future and plan ahead.
Overt planning tends to take the magic and romance out of a relationship.
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I expect to pass through this world but once. Any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness that I can show to my fellow creatures, let me not defer nor neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.
When I wrote that I had just read about the Nick Berg incident and I was feeling a little down and very cynical, not common for me, but it happens.
The above quote is also a reflection that I've spent the last few days researching pair bonding, dopamine signaling, vasopressin, oxytocin, and downregulation of those corresponding receptors...hence I should have prefaced my comment with "from a neuro chemical perspective", but I do appologize for the flip comment...out of character for me.
Marriage is fantastic actually...I'm actually surprised that our relationship is getting better than it was, and I always thought we had a fantastic relationship. But the last few days have just been amazing....and besides this morning when I read every story I could find on this incident, I've been on top of the world.
Anyway...I am damn happy and I guess I have the capacity for more than the act of procreation! Yeah, life is good...
Last edited by wideawake; 12th May 2004 at 12:47 PM..
Originally posted by dreaming4ever
I want a guy that falls in love with me for my body, mind and soul....NOT just my body. Is that possible or am I just dreaming? I dated this guy for 7 months and just now I find out that he was really a jerk who only wanted my body. Wonderful...story of my crappy life....girls, guys....tell me how it is...is this just the reality of the world or what?
I can tell you that we do exist and that we are out there. I tend to fall for the mind and soul rather as the body, not to say I ignore the body (I am male after all), but just that it's secondary. Look for the thinkers, if a guy thinks and dreams a lot, chances are he'll be looking for a girl who does the same and will fall for that kind of mind.
That's the best clue I can think to give you that is the hardest for a guy to fake.
I hope you don't have to dream4ever,
Karl
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Thanks Heoga, you've given me some hope. I'm one of those thinkers too so I guess I'll just look for someone like myself. Thanks so much...I also hope I don't have to dream4ever. For once I want a guy to be completely in love with my every move, every word and to want to understand me and kiss me and just be with me all the time. I don't think that's too much to ask....that's what I'm looking for...but for some reason I tend to always fall harder for a guy than he falls with me. I guess I'll just keep looking!
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