I sent my ex an email yesterday,i told her i want my ring back as why would she want to keep it if she doesnt want anything to do with me.
I got a reply today saying i can have it back if i want and that she doesnt hate me or not want anything to do with me,but its easier for me if we dont see each other.
I was hoping to hear something different and its showed me that she really doesnt have feelings for me anymore.It hurts so bad!!
I sent her a reply saying what she has done to me is horrible and that i cant believe how immature and selfish she has been.Told her i need a talk as need to know everything to settle my mind.
Dont know what she will say to that but i really need to know what shes feeling.
I know,im not sure if it was the right thing to do.My stomach is churning now with worry,as ive been told she probably wont talk to me face to face.
I just dont understand how her feelings can change just like that after 3 years.
Originally posted by NickT
I know,im not sure if it was the right thing to do.My stomach is churning now with worry,as ive been told she probably wont talk to me face to face.
I just dont understand how her feelings can change just like that after 3 years.
trust me i feel the same...see the thing i dont get is he just straight up dumped me and not tried to make stuff work..but he was with his ex for 2 1/2 years..but didnt try with me...maybe he has a plan or something. I just dont get it. He said he "fell " out of love..you dont really fall out of love..it only takes a spark to restart the flame
Thats exactly the same as me,i dont understand why she didnt explain her feelings when she first knew so we could work on it together.After all,isnt it worth it after 3 years? She has really bad communication problems and always bottles her problems up which is no good to me.Ive been so paranoid,thinking shes been seeing someone else,i need to clear my mind.
Originally posted by NickT
Thats exactly the same as me,i dont understand why she didnt explain her feelings when she first knew so we could work on it together.After all,isnt it worth it after 3 years? She has really bad communication problems and always bottles her problems up which is no good to me.Ive been so paranoid,thinking shes been seeing someone else,i need to clear my mind.
yea same way here...i always bottled up my emotions..and when i let them out...hell would break loose. And plus we never did communicate that well
Its not good to bottle emotions as you need to communicate in a relationship.How can it work if you dont speak your mind.Have you had many similar relationships in the past?
Originally posted by NickT
Its not good to bottle emotions as you need to communicate in a relationship.How can it work if you dont speak your mind.Have you had many similar relationships in the past?
nope..this was the only one that i did it too and i dont know why..i guess i was afraid to say what was on my mind. Now i know not to. but i still want him back..my friend called me last night cause she wants her ex back too and she was crying so much and she made me cry..ahh i hate when that happens
Ive been through so many emotions this past week,sadness,anger,confusion,paranoia etc.Im constantly looking for that little sign of hope,i check my phone for a text everynow and again.I sit here,waiting to see if she comes online,even though i dont speak to her.I know i shouldnt but its nice to see her name highlighted on the screen.I keep hoping she will say that shes made a mistake and that she wants me back,but i dont think it will happen.
Originally posted by NickT
Ive been through so many emotions this past week,sadness,anger,confusion,paranoia etc.Im constantly looking for that little sign of hope,i check my phone for a text everynow and again.I sit here,waiting to see if she comes online,even though i dont speak to her.I know i shouldnt but its nice to see her name highlighted on the screen.I keep hoping she will say that shes made a mistake and that she wants me back,but i dont think it will happen.
i do the same thing...i would sit here and hope that who ever called would be him and id constantly sit here and think about him and dream about him..it didnt do me any good. But i still know that he'll come back..just not right now
Well,she is online right now and hasnt replied to my email.
Ive had a really hard past 24 hrs,i cant stop thinking about her,all the good times are flooding my mind.
I remember,while we were away 3 weeks ago,we were sat in a bar and she was going on about how hard it is to keep all her friends happy.How you only seem to concentrate on certain ones.She has this friend who bugs her to go round,even when she says no,this friend tells her that she never goes to see her anymore.Im sure my ex went to talk to this girl about her feelings and im wondering if she has poisoned her mind because she can now start to spend time with her again.I know im looking for lifelines but i cant stop asking myself why?
I was talking to my mother lastnight and she was telling me that she has gone through lots of rough patches with my dad,where she cant stand the thought of him etc.She said it happens all the time but you get through it.I just wish my ex would realise that and give it a shot.She seems to be avoiding confrontation.
Originally posted by NickT
Well,she is online right now and hasnt replied to my email.
Ive had a really hard past 24 hrs,i cant stop thinking about her,all the good times are flooding my mind.
I remember,while we were away 3 weeks ago,we were sat in a bar and she was going on about how hard it is to keep all her friends happy.How you only seem to concentrate on certain ones.She has this friend who bugs her to go round,even when she says no,this friend tells her that she never goes to see her anymore.Im sure my ex went to talk to this girl about her feelings and im wondering if she has poisoned her mind because she can now start to spend time with her again.I know im looking for lifelines but i cant stop asking myself why?
I was talking to my mother lastnight and she was telling me that she has gone through lots of rough patches with my dad,where she cant stand the thought of him etc.She said it happens all the time but you get through it.I just wish my ex would realise that and give it a shot.She seems to be avoiding confrontation.
yea i wish it would happen to me too...its just that you'll have to wait...but do other stuff to get her off your mind.
Originally posted by NickT
Well,she is online right now and hasnt replied to my email.
Ive had a really hard past 24 hrs,i cant stop thinking about her,all the good times are flooding my mind.
I remember,while we were away 3 weeks ago,we were sat in a bar and she was going on about how hard it is to keep all her friends happy.How you only seem to concentrate on certain ones.She has this friend who bugs her to go round,even when she says no,this friend tells her that she never goes to see her anymore.Im sure my ex went to talk to this girl about her feelings and im wondering if she has poisoned her mind because she can now start to spend time with her again.I know im looking for lifelines but i cant stop asking myself why?
I was talking to my mother lastnight and she was telling me that she has gone through lots of rough patches with my dad,where she cant stand the thought of him etc.She said it happens all the time but you get through it.I just wish my ex would realise that and give it a shot.She seems to be avoiding confrontation.
To tell you the truth, I begged my ex fiance to take me back couple weeks ago I was crying and saying lets work it out and she said the spark is gone but she loves and care for me etc.
Do you want someone to be with you out of pity? I mean right now both of our girls are not in love with us and we cant do anything about it, I mean we can try to work things out but if the other party have made up their mind and trust me on this, they didnt make up their mind couple days before my ex was planning this, i saw the signs she was distant, when i said i missed her, she would avoid saying it back etc. It hurts alot to think someone you love and care about dont feel the same way. What you need to do is make her want you back, dont send emails saying she was selfish etc forget about that just let her go out and enjoy her life and if you guys were meant to be then later on you will get back together when you are stronger. I am hoping that I will be a better person in many ways by the time I want to be in a relationship hopefully with her. So in the meantime I am working at getting to that goal. I am going on vacation, then when I come back, going back to school part-time and working out and also going out not to to be in a relationship but just to have fun for now. I know how you feel i wish i can turn back the time and she is there and I wished that she is with me and I always question myself what if I had done this or not say this but I remember I have done alot of good things for her and bad things too, but we are here and now and work with that.
To tell you the truth, I begged my ex fiance to take me back couple weeks ago I was crying and saying lets work it out and she said the spark is gone but she loves and care for me etc.
Do you want someone to be with you out of pity? I mean right now both of our girls are not in love with us and we cant do anything about it, I mean we can try to work things out but if the other party have made up their mind and trust me on this, they didnt make up their mind couple days before my ex was planning this, i saw the signs she was distant, when i said i missed her, she would avoid saying it back etc. It hurts alot to think someone you love and care about dont feel the same way. What you need to do is make her want you back, dont send emails saying she was selfish etc forget about that just let her go out and enjoy her life and if you guys were meant to be then later on you will get back together when you are stronger. I am hoping that I will be a better person in many ways by the time I want to be in a relationship hopefully with her. So in the meantime I am working at getting to that goal. I am going on vacation, then when I come back, going back to school part-time and working out and also going out not to to be in a relationship but just to have fun for now. I know how you feel i wish i can turn back the time and she is there and I wished that she is with me and I always question myself what if I had done this or not say this but I remember I have done alot of good things for her and bad things too, but we are here and now and work with that.
Thanks for the advice.
Thing is,i play pool for my county as she does also.We have a match once a month and one on sunday,do i talk to her or just keep my distance?
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