well i met her in a bar a year ago. she was drinking a wine spritzer and singing to the band. we chatted a while and found we had alot in common. i asked her out and she accepted. we had several dates that all circled around at a bar. she was always drinking a wine spritzer. she was so fun, so exuberant, so lively, so talkative, such a wondeful affectionate woman. i could not help myself but to fall in love with her.

now some odd years later we do not go out like we use to. age has settled us down quite a bit as has expenses. that is all find with me but i always left in my head with the memories of what she once was. i felt in love with her the way she was when she was slightly intoxicated. she was never fully drunk, just loose enough to let go and unwind some.

at times when we do go out, i once again watch her and fall in love with her all over again. the woman at the bar with a spritzer in her hand, the laughter in her eyes, the songs on her lips, the fun in her heart. she is gone now, only to be found on those rare nights when we do go out. i sure miss her. i fell in love with her at the bar. she is not the same woman and sometimes i have to question if she had been different at the bar would i of even acknowledged her?

we deeply love each other, there is no doubt with that. i would not change a thing about her and her about me. would i of fallen in love with her without her persistance, with out the drink? i was persistent as well. we both wanted to be together. she pulled away some when during the day we would meet up for lunch. time was on my side though as i fell in love with her more and more each time at the bar. reality is not the same as at the bar. i love her, i know this. but i can not help but wonder why my feelings are so strong for her when i see her in that same old familiar environment. could it be that wine spritzer in her hand?

[Twilite Man]

Are you still with her?

yes we are we are still together and i want to stay that way but yet i get my doubts because of the way we met.

[bluechocolate]

I don't understand your dilema here. Who difference does it make how you met if you two love each other?

Are you thinking that she has a drinking problem? Or perhaps the two of you have a problem with alcohol?

Who knows - maybe she's thinking, "Jeez, all we do is go to that damn bar!". And you know everyone is a different person under the influence of alcohol (to varying degress). If she doesn't have a drinking problem are you sure you really love this woman for who she is or do you only love the drunk version?

If there is no doubt that you two deeply love each other then find out what stuff the two of you would like to do together that doesn't revolve around sitting in a bar - and get out there and do them.