[cattywoman]

Ok, this is how the situation is at the moment. I am seeing a guy who i have been on and off with for 3 years and who i am prepared to be very serious with because we are sick of splitting up and getting back together because of his mother. We love each other very much but his mother hates my guts and endeavours to constantly refer to me as a slag and that im wasting her son's time. My boyfriend ignores her and tells her to stay out of it but she wont and she resents me as well because he always wants to spend time with me.
The problem on my behalf is that i used to date his cousin and although it is well over now, she hates the idea- although she hates her nephew (my bf cousin) who i used to date as well. We've told her that you cant help who you love so why cant she accept it. The family isnt very close so there isnt any rifts between anyone else- only me and her. I know it was a bad idea to date the cousin of my boyfriend but as i said before, you cant help who you fall in love with. She is convinced that i am going to go back to my ex boyfriend and break her sons heart.
How on earth can i get her to see that i make her son happy and that im good for him. Im a degree student at a top univeristy in England and i have my own house and good career prospects and ultimately, i make her son happy and he makes me happy and we dont want this to get in the way like it has done before because we are sick of her interference.
I just want to know, do i deserve this punishment off his mother or is she overreacting? If she is overreacting, does anyone have any advice on how to put her straight and maybe gently persuade her to accept me and the situation.
Please help me!
Thank you

[Girlie]

Well, unfortunately, you can't make her see anything. She's going to do what she wants to do. Have you tried talking to her on your own? If so, then there's not much else you can do. She'll react to you however she wants to, and what you probably need to do is concentrate on being the better person. Kill them with kindness so to speak. If this is causing trouble between you and your boyfriend, be sure to keep the lines of communication open about it. If you're serious about this guy, you could end up having to put up with this woman for a very long time.
Is she over-reacting? Well, it sounds like she's very protective of her son. Hopefully she will realize that regardless of what she thinks of you or your past relationship decisions, it's HIS choice to date you. If not, like I said, there's not a lot you can do to change her mind. You and your boyfriend have to live your life.

[bluechocolate]

How on earth can i get her to see that i make her son happy and that im good for him.

Simply by loving her son and making him happy.

Remember, she can only interfere if the two of you let her.

Other than that there is not much more I can add to what Girlie has already said.