[Sweetluvmel]

Hey everyone. I could use some advice.. again lol.. Anyway so I went on the "date" with Ben to the movies. The thing was he brought all his friends and their girls to, he paid and we had a good time.

He called me the day after said he had fun and we should do it again. Now we've been hanging out alot, like he'll come over to my apt and watch Survivor with me and my roomies. We hold hands, kiss, and cuddle when we're together. We're like this in front of my friends and his.

Lately though, he just IM's me alot, saying HI hope i have a good day, hope i see you soon, etc.. and we'll hang out or on the weekends we'll go to the bars and we'll dance, have a good time. He'll stay at my place.. (we havent' been intimate though).

My question is what is our status? Should I ask him? The thing is we only went on one date and now we don't even date just hang out. I would like to see a movie with him or go to dinner by ourselves. We talked about things in general and everything..it's funny but i don't think he even knows my last name! If he cared wouldn't he ask?

We're both 21 and go to the same college campus. Do you think maybe he's just after me for sex? How can I tell if he really likes me? I was kind of upset because last night he goes out with his friends and stops by to see me at 1:30 in the morning and he was kind of drunk.

[krbshappy71]

Just hold out sexually and see where this goes. If you don't give it up you wont have to worry if he is using you for it. When he starts to pressure you for it, ask him point-blank what he wants from "this". (your situation of dating kinda-sorta) I'm sure how he answers it will let you know what he's REALLY after. The showing up "kinda drunk" thing is annoying but not a deal breaker unless he was being all stupid and pawing at you, that's just obnoxious. HA!