I don't right now but have in the past if the partner brings it up to see if I am open to it. If its not brought up, I don't suggest it because I don't really need it. Its entertaining and all, can spice things up if both people want to, why not. I'm not sure what type of porn you are referring to, I'm assuming "soft porn" without the hard core or demeaning stuff?
The only time I've had a problem with a partner watching porn was when the person completely turned off all other activities, started staying up all night to do so, lost interest in reality completely, couldn't go to work because he was too tired from watching porn all night, etc. and lost interest in the bedroom too. It sucked, but I still don't blame the porn, he just got out of hand with it. He also had a gambling problem, maybe just an addictive personality in general, I don't know.
I am in a relationship, but we do not watch porn together. He is into it and all. Though I am not into it at all. I guess it depends on the relationship.
We watch it all the time. Gives us good ideas, and we aren't so insecure that a video of that would make us jealous.
You can't control your partner's thoughts or desires. You need to be able to compromise and adapt in some ways. Otherwise they'll just satisfy their curiousities somewhere else.
My man and I really enjoy watching porn together. I always tell him that we can only ever watch it together as opposed to on our own.
we usually watch it to get us in the mood and I'll always know what he's after without him saying a word when he puts it on.
we only mainly have women/lesbian in our collection as i am also into women.
we would like to try a three-some. with an extra woman.
We watched it Saturday night actually - at my suggestion. I do not like it if he's doing it by himself, but it put us both in a very *nice* mood and neither of us were insecure. It was wonderful. Saturday was a good day for us. HEHE
I think that it's okay if either partner watches porn, together or separately...Who is so insecure that they think Jenna Jamison is going steal their boyfriend or husband?
Originally posted by sprightlee
I think that it's okay if either partner watches porn, together or separately...Who is so insecure that they think Jenna Jamison is going steal their boyfriend or husband?
I dont think Jenna Jamison would steal my bf or husband I just dont feel respected if he watches porn...Im not anti-porn but I dont like it in a relationship.Thats just me.
Last edited by LoveShack.org Moderator; 4th May 2004 at 5:38 PM..
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Originally posted by sprightlee
I think that it's okay if either partner watches porn, together or separately...Who is so insecure that they think Jenna Jamison is going steal their boyfriend or husband?
I am more worried about the 'unhealthy' thoughts regarding another women, rather than the fear of losing him to porn
I apologize for the harshness of my comment. It came out the wrong way.
What I should have said is: We as women need to feel secure in the fact that our lovers desire us, or the passion gets lost somewhere. If you don't want your man to watch porn because you are bothered by it, than he should stop.
Men are visual creatures, and many of them fantasize on their own, even without porn, but I don't think that means that they love us any less.
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