[Azaroth]

When my girlfriend says, i don't want to be joint at the hip, "but comes to me when her friends dick her over"; doesn't want any PDA - says all this after a week of going out?!?! joint at the hip she said b/c she spent the night over my house 7 pm to 12 pm ?

should a red flag be brought up?

Actually, I think what she said was "JOINED at the hip" (not "joint").

Hard to say if there's a "red flag" here or not. Depends where she's coming from. You say you've only been together for a WEEK. That's not a very long time. Maybe she just wants to take things slowly and not be so intense and feel obligated to spend so much free time together?

Does she maybe feel pressured or smothered?

Do you phone her too much? Are you suggesting to her, every day of this past week, that you "see each other"? No girl likes a guy who's too pushy or clingy, or wants to spend every free minute together. That can be a real turn-off, such a turn-off that it could cause a gal to want to break up. Maybe just back off and give her some space. Take things more casual. Don't be constantly contacting her and wanting to spend time with her. There's no rush, is there?

[Tony T]

When she says she doesn't want to be joined at the hip, that means she's not wanting to get anymore serious with you than she already is. She is not thinking about anything long term right now.

She comes over when her girlfriends screw her over because she has nothing better to do at that point. Don't be under any delusions, this gal is not head over heals for you...at least not yet. You need to give her a run for her money.

Forget red flags. This relationship is not serious enough to even consider that possibility.

[Miss_Prolixity]

Hi Azaroth,

I personally don't think this is a red flag sign. Some people in relationships need some personal time and space alone. Spending too much time with any one person can feel claustrophobic. It has nothing to do with their feelings for the person, it's just breathing room.

If you're concerned about this behaviour, try communicating to her your feelings. At least you won't have to second guess and analyze.