My boyfriend of 2 years watches porn,yes some people think its fine but I dont and I told him this. And I believe if he truly loves me he would respect me and try not to look/watch porn. What do you think? And do ALL men watch porn?

[little_hummingbird]

My personal opinion.... Relax.
Guys by design, are turned on by sensual sights. That's just a biological component. Just because he reads/watches porn doesn't mean that he wants the porn star girl in his life or is cheating on you. It's a fantasy world in the videos. It seems unfair to throw down an ultimatium unless he's watching porn and it's become an obsession. I'm going to say probably 99% of guys watch porn. Maybe there's a bigger issue here -- self esteem, communication, relationship health?

Just my two cents....

I just dont see why he has to watch porn when he has me. And I told him I didnt like it.

Originally posted by !confus3d!
My boyfriend of 2 years watches porn,yes some people think its fine but I dont and I told him this. And I believe if he truly loves me he would respect me and try not to look/watch porn. What do you think? And do ALL men watch porn?

Such a popular question. Why just yesterday, a poster named "Izzy" asked the exact same question. Maybe you should check out the responses she got?

I really don't understand why so many women get so bent out of shape about porn...why they feel so intimidated and disrespected and insecure about it. It's such a small thing, really. The amount of time and energy expended trying to get a guy to stop viewing porn, it could be better spent on making the relationship better.

If he isn't willing to stop this, then it's totally up to you to decide whether or not you can remain with him. Chances are, he was into porn before you entered into his life. If you can't accept him for the way he is, you're better off with someone else.

The only time I think porn is a problem is if it gets in the way of the couple having a normal, healthy, regular sex life.....where the guy uses porn as a substitute for intimacy and sex with his partner. Or if he spends less time with his woman than he does viewing porn. Or he is into viewing really wacked out crap and then starts to want his girlfriend or wife to simulate things that she's not comfortable with.

So you've told your guy you feel disrespected by his viewing porn. What was his response to you?

[moimeme]

As of yesterday, LS has had approximately 465,798,327,889 posts about men looking at porn.

Do a search on 'porn' to see what everybody has said. It will take you a couple days to read it all, I figure.

He said its a normal guy thing,like alot of people tell me...

I also have an issue with porn. I caught my partner of almost 4 years surfing porno websites on my computer the other night.. and I was really upset. He knows I have a massive problem with it, and I find it difficult to respect him knowing that he gets kicks from watching porn.

I don't accept that all men watch porn - I think that's a rather cliched response from guys who want to justify their behaviour. Equally, there are women who do find porn exciting and sexy.

You have to ask yourself whether you want to share your life with someone who thinks porn is okay.. I personally want to live with someone who has a more mature attitude to sex and who respects women.