[ziggue]

My Ex boyfriend from about almost 2 years ago is starting to call me again. I don't know why. I have barely spoken to him since then.

This guy seemed really sweet at first but he has a dark side too him. I also started hearing rumours about him. Like how his Ex left him with their two kids (he hadn't seen them in 2-3 yrs) because he beat her. Also he had a temper and always accused me of cheating of him even though I didn't. He would also raise his voice at me for no reason which I hated. . Plus he was always borrowing money. He made a bit from Brikies Labouring but he was also into pot as well. I wasn't into that but I just put up with it.

I don't know why he thinks I would take him back. He has lost his chance and now I am with a new guy that is the total opposite to him.

Today has been the second time this week that he has rang me? Everytime he has I have turned off my mobile and ignored his messages. I just have nothing to say to the guy any more. I am soo over him.

I am scared of even answering the home phone because of him now. I hope he doesn't turn into a stalker or something.

What should I say to him if I accidentally pick up the phone home? We don't have caller ID so I wouldn't know it was him if I answer. .

[ziggue]

By the way he didn't hit me or anything the 6 months we went out but I had to watch what I said around him which I pretty much hated. Luckily I got out before things started getting that way.

[bluechocolate]

Have his number blocked from your mobile and from your home phone. If you do happen to pick up and he's on the other end ( 'cause he can always use another phone ) tell him nicely that you've moved on and you don't want to him from him again, then hang up. Do not engage him in any kind of conversation or argument. Tell your current b/f and all your friends and family about these calls.

I wouldn't get too worried at this time though. Chances are he's just testing the waters and will give up as soon as he realises that his chances of a reconciliation are nil.

[Papillon]

I think you should gently but firmly tell him that your history is over, and that you've moved on in your life, and that you don't want to re-establish any relationship or friendship of any kind.

If that fails, well, then it's restraining order time. Only you will know whether it will pan out that way.

Point is, you have to set your boundaries.