[Mary3]

I finally had enough and told my x bf to not call me anymore if he could not say positive things....

His response to that : He has not called...and I am sooo Happy !

I feel freee!..Ffree from his terrible rejection and treatment and words I had to endure for 3 months...

So did I do BAD ETTIQUITE BREAKUP or was I right to finally tell him not to call me anymore...I want it OVER.....NO CONTACT.....and I told him I could care less if he ever calls me again.....Was that bad ???
Your advice ....

If you weren't happy, you felt your (now ex) boyfriend never had anything positive to say, you ended it and now feel "free"...and you're glad to be without him now, it doesn't matter one little bit whether you told him not to contact you. Does it? I mean, it's over. Right? Doesn't matter what any of us feel is right or wrong. You do what you feel is right for YOU, given your circumstance.

[bluechocolate]

I finally had enough and told my x bf to not call me anymore if he could not say positive things....

Did you break up? This sounds a little open for interpretation to me. What if he calls you with something positive to say?

So did I do BAD ETTIQUITE BREAKUP or was I right to finally tell him not to call me anymore...I want it OVER.....NO CONTACT.....and I told him I could care less if he ever calls me again.....Was that bad ???

Absolutely not. You are free to dictate the terms of how you live own life - if you don't want him to call you & you don't want to speak to him that's perfectly reasonable, as far as I'm concerned.

Congratulations on your new found freedom

[Mary3]

Well he played with my head for 3 months , Not telling me he wanted to end it....kept having sex with me....kept the affection going.....but it changed for me ....with subtle actions : The calls were less frequent....the whole relationship had changed dramatically and I confronted him numerous times asking him : Do you want us to end this ?" " Do you want me to end my feelings for you ? "

He would not have the courage to tell me until 3 months later....At that point , I was tired of the comments and his new life and just sick of listening to him.

I told him ( after he made a rude remark ) to not bother calling me anymore if he was going to say things like that.....He has not called....since that day...
Every day that he does NOT call I feel stronger....I am healing.....I just wanted to know if that was rude of me to tell him not to call ?

It just proves he didnt really care....and that I made the right choice to stop talking to him....and as you all mentioned earlier ...Have some respect for yourself and I certainly do and wont allow any more garbage....I've eaten enough of it from him