[myhearthurts]

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last nite was my bday and he asked me to leave weve been working at this for awhile but i love him and i want it to work weve been together for 3years and i dont know how to ignore him. i had o move out and i still have my keys i want to fight for himi love him andi want to know how to get him back. please help me

[Becks84]

WHat have you two been working on? WHat are the issues? And why did he ask you to leave?

[myhearthurts]

weve been fighting because i would get petty to him and he said he couldnt take it anymore i kept doing the same thing and i would cry and he would take me back and this time he couldnt he said he really loves me and it hurts but he wants to see me happy. i want him back i wanna fight for him

[Becks84]

I say fight for him! You were together a long time, and you both say you love each other. You just need to truly work on this about yourself. Really try and learn to not sweat the small stuff. Talk to him about this. Do you want to change? If you do, then tell him that and promise him that, and then follow through with your promise. I wish I knew exactly what you meant by "petty things" because then maybe I could give some advice to you on how to work on that! I am one of the most anxious people you will ever meet, and I have worked really hard on not sweating the small stuff and only worrying about what matters! Me working on this, and working on myself has saved my relationship of 2 years You should get back to me

[myhearthurts]

well we just had been fighting about stupid stuff like the laundry but he always feels like he has to take care of me and i know it drives him up the wall, so this particular day he was upset because he told me you should go exercise and i got uset so i did and then went to bed on the couch i know it was a jerk move but i was upset. so he said he wanted me to leave. i did leave and know he wants me to come back but i just cant get my self to go back im afraid of the cycle. and i do want to so im not sure what to do he says maybe we should just leave it an open realation ship. my heart says go but my brain says wait things out. its like i got what i want but i cant help but second guess it .

[smiles]

I know exactly what you are going through. Me and my ex split on my bday...2 months ago. We broke up becasue of constant arguing and petty fighting also. My problem is that 3 days after we broke up he was with someone else and been with her ever since.


I wished that i would of quit arguing about the small stuff...but I feel like every relationship has it's up's and downs. We were just going throught a down time. I wanted to work it out...he wanted to have nothing to do with me. I can only hope and pray that this new relationship is a rebound. I have been using no contact and it has been 22 days since i contacted him. I am trying to wait things out also and hoping that he will eventually come to his senses. Stay in touch

[Papillon]

What a childish, unfeeling, uncaring, selfish bastard. Good riddance.