[J,A&J]

My wife and I've been married five years. We've been seperated 3 times in the five years. The first go around I'm not sure why. the second time around she had an affair. and this time she's left me guessing.after the affair she told me that I pushed her into it. But she came home so we could fix us. We have had the usual arguments. money, how to raise our daughter and so on. I still have trust issues with her affair and have been told to deal with it. so I've tried. still she does things that remind me and tells me I should be over it by now its been over two years. this time around she moved out one week before our annivesary and has stayed in a motel. she said she was not going to come home until she saw change. how do you see change without being around? she went back to work to pay for the motel and has now rented an apartment. she says she doesn't want a divorce but at th same time doesn't know if she'll come home. We have a 6 yo daughter that she hasn't seen since Easter and hasn't called in a couple of days. I'm by no means perfect Ihave never raised a hand to my wife, have never cheated on her and have tried to give her everything she wanted. I guess I'm looking for advice on wether to move on with my life and let her move on with hers or should I stick around and fight for my marriage. The biggest concern I have is for my daughter will she survive this kind of rejection from her mother?

[Almuric]

Wow!
It seems like you have two choices (I hate that - You really only have one choice. But you have two things to choose from) Consider:

1. Do I want to stay with a woman whom I Know for a FACT is capable of adultry and abandonment. Who knows what else she'll do next?

Or

2. Do I take her back and await more possible shenanigans and expose my daughter to this kind of blueprint for her adult behavior patterns.

Both are good arguments to welcome her absence.

Find strength in The Comforter.

[Debster]

Although it must be hard to have her move out three times, I think it was the best thing to happen to you. You've been able to see her true colours.
You deserve better.
Good luck

I am right there with you, only it's my husband that says he loves me and doesn't want a divorce, but has moved 2 hours away. Read my post...We have a lot in common!

[hope&pray]

My wife is moving out on the 8th of June into an apt. We never had any of the problems that you have/had. I'm still hoping we can get back together.
Have you tried counseling? May be about the only way to really make it better because it sounds like she doesn't want to change and maybe somebody else showing her how she has been is what she needs.