[Topaz]

Hi, I found this forum while looking for solace. My boyfriend of eight months dumped me a week ago over very confusing terms. Everything had been going well until a week before when we hadn't seen much of each other due to work/uni. His reasons for breaking up consisted of he doesn't think he is in love with me the way he used to be and that he feels I'm more emotionally involved in the relationship than he is. He has also said that we may get back together or we may not.

I'm hoping that he's just confused at the moment (naturally ) but I've used this time to think constructivly about things, and my feelings for him. We spent four out of seven days a week together since we started going out and I feel we may have just spent too much time together and gotten burnt-out. Having said this, I do love him and want to work to overcome this.

He is interested in talking about things, and staying friends. There is no one else (and probably not for a long time, he's assured me) and there have been no major conflicts.

I guess I'm just looking for a different perspective on the situation.

Also, does it mean anything when the guy brings up the subject of thinking of the possiblity of us being married with kids?

[hurtingandconfused]

He has also said that we may get back together or we may not.

Ummm ok.

I'm hoping that he's just confused at the moment

Don't you want to be "hoping" that you are THE ONE instead?

We spent four out of seven days a week together since we started going out and I feel we may have just spent too much time together

I guess he's not ready for a serious relationship.

He is interested in talking about things, and staying friends.

Talking about things as friends? Or talking about the relationship...as friends? Doesn't make sense eh?

There is no one else (and probably not for a long time, he's assured me) and there have been no major conflicts.

Blah Blah Blah(to him)...this is your major conflict:

he doesn't think he is in love with me the way he used to be

Anyhow this is what I think of your situation. Sorry I'm a j3rk!

[Fedup&givingup]

I know you must be really hurting right now, but this guy is stringing you along like a yo yo.

HE says he may want more, maybe not. What do YOU want? If you want more than what he is willing to give, by all means move on. Don't let someone else string you along like this only to get burned in the end. It's not fair of him to do this, and you do not deserve this.

If I were you, I would avoid him altogether. You need to detach yourself from him, because he's made it clear that he's not into this as he once was. Unfortunately, I see where you will end up hanging on for false hopes.