I am a 40 yrs old my husband and I are separated for 11 months now, he currently in a re-hab. I just started an affair with a 23 yrs old kid I work with, he is currently in a relationship and his girlfriend is 8 months pregnant. I am also pregnant with his child!


I am stuck, I dont want to end my relationship with this young man, I can trully see us having a long term relationship. I love my husband but I am not in love with him anymore, perhaps if he would get sober... I dont know Please someone I need help!!!

[krbshappy71]

Do you have any other children?

Wow. That's a hard one. The odds aren't great for you and the 23 year old, but stranger things have happened. And does your husband know you've been dating during the separation?

If you keep this child, it sounds like you are entering a new life, whether you really want to or not.

[Sundaymorning]

DId yall see this kid has TWO women pregnant!??!

Lady, I think you are not thinking straight. You cannot have a long term relationship with this guy- HE HAS A GF AND SHE IS PREGNANT WITH HIS KID TOO.

I think we cannot help you. I think you need counseling.

[SoleMate]

DId yall see this kid has TWO women pregnant!??!

Are we sure it's only two? Those are just the ones we know about!!

Actingup, the young guy is NOT a long term guy for you. Unless you want a lot of cheating and unexpected children popping up for the foreseeable future.

And I'm really sorry about your husband. I don't know the chances of him actually getting and staying sober, and I wouldn't recommend having a life with him unless he is.

So you have no acceptable man in sight, and a baby on the way. Ouch. Well, the options are terminating the pregnancy, adoption, or rearing the child yourself. Have you considered these possibilities?

[Darkangelism]

None of those options are easy either.

[reasontosigh]

Originally posted by krbshappy71
Do you have any other children?

This is a good question. We know about him, it seems, but not her in this respect.

I hear a first pregnancy when you're 40 is not necessarily as easy physically as at a younger age.

[Tony T]

The guy at work is just a child relative to you. He could be your son for heaven's sake. What kind of future do you see in that. And in 15 or 20 years, he will see you as old and drop you like a hot potato in favor of some young chick. Wise up...or get your doctor to get you off your current medication.

JER-RY. JER-RY. JER-RY. JER-RY.

Originally posted by actingup
I am a 40 yrs old my husband and I are separated for 11 months now, he currently in a re-hab. I just started an affair with a 23 yrs old kid I work with, he is currently in a relationship and his girlfriend is 8 months pregnant. I am also pregnant with his child!


I am stuck, I dont want to end my relationship with this young man, I can trully see us having a long term relationship. I love my husband but I am not in love with him anymore, perhaps if he would get sober... I dont know Please someone I need help!!!

I dont have any children,

[swtbonita]

Did you use any protection or did you want a child?

[Karlise]

It sounds like you were lonely, in a bad situation and made some careless decisions.

That said, you have to face reality and take at a look at your options.

First off, will you keep the baby? You may choose to give the child up if you cannot adequately care for the baby or if the 23-yr-old BF is not ready to be a father.
That is certainly a noble gesture; many infertile couples would love to have a baby given to them.

If you have decided you are keeping the baby no matter what, I'd make sure you get proof of paternity the minute the child is born.

You want to make sure the biological father keeps up with his financial obligations.

I have no idea how deep into this relationship either of you are: you mention he has a girlfriend? So he obviously thinks cheating is OK.

I hate to break it to you, but most cheaters continue to cheat.

[Arabess]

Originally posted by SoleMate

Well, the options are terminating the pregnancy, adoption, or rearing the child yourself. Have you considered these possibilities?

I think this pretty well sums up the options available to you.

Since you dont have any children, then, I believe you would like to keep this child

But just dont exepct that you and the 23 year old would have a future together, this kind of thinking sure is STUPID! or the STUPIDEST! "I can truely see us having a long term relationship" this idea lowers your IQ to zero! You didnt meet a decent guy, you meet a scumbag who's messing around while his g/f is carrying his child.

If your husband is willing to accept this child, then, great, work things out wiht him. if he is not,and the separation is leading a divorce, then, get ready to be a single mom. and I dont believe this is a rich kid, I doubt you will be able to get much child support from him since he is having another child at the same time.

Having parents like this is a shame! being born like this is unfortunate! I feel sorry for the children!

[mintjulep]

Originally posted by dontwannaregister
Since you dont have any children, then, I believe you would like to keep this child

whoa...unless she doesn't have children for a reason. I had to call out the blatant assumption and knock it down as an unacceptable form of "advice" along with the rest of that highly opinionated and, I might add stupid post - sorry I don't have any helpful words, actingup, but I believe they've all been said.

Sometimes people on the internet just suck. I guess they're chicken, too - or they would register.