[compgeek2004]

Hi i'm new and its my first post so please bear with me..
Im in college right now and have recently started talking to a girl there...I myself am very shy around girls but with this one I just decided to bite my tongue and go talk to her..I've intro'd myself to her and she's done the same..I can make her laugh easily by making some silly remark about the class we're in together and I'll walk with her after class..and she never seems to mind or doesn't make an excuse to leave or anything..the other day I complimented her on her hair..it looked like she did something with it differently and she smiled and said thankyou.

So what do you guys think..do I have a shot or should I wait this out..I'm not good with girls but I'm hoping this will change..Thanks in advance to those who reply I appreciate it very much you . This looks like a real respectable place to ask for help you guys all seem to care from other posts I read on here

[UCFKevin]

Well, she didn't recoil in terror when you complimented her, so that's a good sign.

Just ask her out, say something like, "Would you like to get together sometime? See a movie or go out to eat or something?"

Simple as that. Don't complicate something that needn't be complicated.

[nicolas465]

hey man,

well... i've made friends w/a lot of girls... and well from much expirience i find that girls will be your friend... making them laugh is just something that they think friends do... if you want her to like you i suggest you do stuff like take her for lunch and stuff.

from expirience, don't be too nice right away.. they start to get kinda freaked out cuz noones that nice so something got to be up .. know what i mean?

so for now just keep hanging out w/her that's the best things, most likely your kinda stuck in teh 'frind" position judging by how you introduced yourself.. haha sorry guy, one a girl has you in friend position your kinda stuck there.. i haven't quite figured out how to get out of that one.. but maybe you can just say stuff like 'hey i like your shirt today you look nice" blah blah blah... she may take it as a friend giving a compliment or u giving her a compliment cuz u like her... girls are realy hard to follow it's all grey area w/them

lemmie know how it goes

g'd luck

nic

hey,, i have a thread below... maybe you can read it ... it says "over protective parents" maybe you can give me some help there

[compgeek2004]

nicholas i didn't run up and intro myself to her if thats what you think and I'm not being 'too nice' there are some days where I just get up and leave after class is over and go on home and don't stick around or say anything to her..I was walking with her one day and she started talking to me and right before I left i said I'm so and so btw and she told me her name..Just my opinion but I'm not being a "nice guy" if thats what you think I'm just being myself

[nicolas465]

hey hey relax man , i'm not attacking you, i'm just tryin ta give ya a hand , hehe so defensive don't be so uptight it's the internet noones gonna ridicule u, we all come here (LS) cuz we need some help not to put down other ppl

in any case i wish ya well

[compgeek2004]

sorry didn't mean to be so uptight about that..I just felt i'm not in the friend area because I haven't known her that long and i don't have a phone no. or email of hers so the only time i talk with her is in school.

[reasontosigh]

I keep thinking that thread where Dyer and faux posted all the computer code would be quite useful here. Can't remember the title or who started it, though.

At the very least, compgeek will cetainly get a kick out of it, I bet!

[dolphinsunshyn]

The best advice I could give you is just be yourself around her but protrude a touch of confidence. Go into thinking she is just a friend it may take some of the pressure off of yourself. You could use the class as a reason to get together as in to "study". Then you could feel her vibe to see if she may be open to more. Maybe grab a bite to eat with her afterwards. Keep it casual. It'll develop naturally the more you talk to her. Just be a little confident (not cocky) and flirt subtlely (by complimenting her, like you already have). Keep up what you are already doing.

Good luck!

[compgeek2004]

thanks any more replies I could use the advice..I want to try to ask her out before the semester ends cause I'm afraid I won't see her again.

[Crys0369]

Don't stress it so much. Ask her out, make it simple, if she says no...who cares! You have to learn to deal with rejection or else you'll always be too shy to even try or see what happends...