[dbs]

This is my second semester at this new school and Theres this girl that i have seen around school and im really interested in getting to know her and im very atrracted to her but Im a very shy person. shes always surrounded by a lot of friends. so I dont know how to approach her. In my old school I had many friends and had a few girlfriends but I have never been the one to aproach the girl so I dont know what to do cause im very interested in this girl but i dont know what to say to her when I approach her. Im not that self confident. Can anyone help me. tell me what to do.

[ShortFuze]

I'm almost in the same position as you are in. It is tough because I'm a little shy too and I'm just afraid of getting rejected. You just got to have a lot of guts to go up to her. I know chics like guys with guts so just build up your confidence. And don't wait too long...the longer you wait..she'll think why did you wait so long if you see me everyday. I don't know what to say either. I usually think about it way beforehand but then when I did actually approach this girl I was like ehhhh...haha I lost what I wanted to say so it was bad. Also, don't scare her off..don't ask for her number or to go out right away. Get to know her and let her get to know you. This is advice that I have gotten. Hope this helps....I should read this myself but I still get really shy and then the words just don't come out. It's hard...

[Tkay]

most people will say "why are u making a fuss about this just go say hi and talk"
I'm also a shy kind of guy, and i know this is kind of hard for "us"
So my approach is finding something funny or anything that happened that u both saw
e.g. you're in a bus.. standing somewhere.. she's standing a bit further... someone in the bus falls or something, and you make a remark about it
then, the ice is broken, and you'll both start conversating IF you both want to.
so u say something about the dude that fell... and u say by the way my name's Thierry..she answers oh mine is blabla.. in what grade are you? or what class are you following? or something
You'll notice if there's interest. If she doesn't like u she will be very short against you like in yes or no.
try not to be shy, but also dont FAKE confidence.
----> be yourself! <---

good luck mate!

[dbs]

This is still very hard for me to overcome and Im very thankful for all of your advice. Cause Ive tried to talk to girls before and I just end up babbling and babling because I get so Nervous or the conversation ends up becoming one of those akward silences. I never know what to say to keep the conversation flowing.

[Tkay]

me neither but everyone always say "ask questions that don't have just a no or yes answer"
like instead of "u like going to the movies?" u ask "u like going to the movies?whats the last one u seen?" she answers a movie... and u hope u saw it too

I've realized it doesn't matter very much what you say
and if u feel one of those silences coming up u say "oh i gotta go talk to ya later! ciao bella! "

(ps.. i have same problem as u so i dunno if u should listen to me)

[blue16]

Originally posted by Tkay
and if u feel one of those silences coming up u say "oh i gotta go talk to ya later! ciao bella! "

lol the "I got to go" excuse has got to be one of the biggest copouts I find that trick is good for emergencies, but don't get in a habit of using it often, it looks stupid.

[miekoveli]

Originally posted by blue16
lol the "I got to go" excuse has got to be one of the biggest copouts I find that trick is good for emergencies, but don't get in a habit of using it often, it looks stupid.

Hey when you feel that silence and ready to leave the conversation...
Turn back and start with a LOW risk..
Its ok to ask with-in minutes of the conversation..

say: Hey! you got an email i want to have this conversation some time again?
this is a low risk.. and no girl would care what you do with her email.
then right when she's writing the "@" simbol
say: write your number too... (in a calm tone ofcourse)

Its funny how any girl would give out their phone numbers just like that...

But remmember start the conversation.. if you feel that silence prentent your going leave turn back.

After you got her number.. wait 2 days.. call her, ask her out.. BAMN you got a girl.
Now its up to the girl is she has feeling over you... lol

--MIEKOVELI