Allo!



Well, I am in a tough situation, I am not sure where to go - nor who to believe.... I became close with this girl - over the past 5 months, I was the 2nd person she ever slept with, and she meet me right after she broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years "who was her whole HS career". From the beginning I noticed we had a lot in common and seemed to be a click like I never experienced before with anyone else.. I was single for 4 years, and i meet this girl and I went from being single male womanizer to someone who became serious over night with someone... She knows about my past, and she knows I am really serious with her....

Her roommate, is telling me these things shortly after the girl who i was dating wanted to take a step back and hang out less, b/c she felt things were getting to serious for her... and she told me from the beginning that she didn't want anything serious - but she realized that she was getting serious with me as well...

Any way her roommate told me that she meet a guy during spring break and he is coming up next weekend, but his school spring break already has passed so coming up for a night is a little foolish - I personally think for an 8 hour drive to hang out with someone.As well her roommate told me that a guy stayed over her room the past weekend... and left early and so forth - and she told me that after i told her if she hooks up with a 100 guys, i dont care as long as i dont find out about it - cuz she found out that i still liked her... but i told her earlier in the week, that if i wanted to make her jealous i could and her roommate told me ya just hook up with me in a jokinly manor - but i find that weird....

I spoke with her just the other night "her the girl who i was dating"- and she told me that she realized that things were getting serious when i took care of her for the 2nd time when she was drunk, and i cleaned up throw up and put a blankey on her and a pillow - when i got really pissed at her and she knew i was really angry with her the night when she got drunk... and she told me that is the type of guy she wants is someone who will do anything for her and she sees i am the type guy, and i think she was pertaining toward marriage as well or something like that.... and she proceeded to tell me that she knows if we go out it will be for a long time and she says, "and that's really really scary" b/c she says she def sees something long term.
I told her that maybe space between us is what is needed between us and she said she didn't want to stop talking to me or hanging out cuz she needs me around and wants me around....

and we left that night apart - i went back to my apartment... and next night she got back from a party and started talking ot me online, and then this morning i lent her and her firend borrow my car to go to a party at Penn State... and she basically asked me whats wrong short time later b/c i spoke wiht her roommate and not her, and told me i was being very quiet to her, and so forth and i told her there is nothign wrong..... Then she said have fun this weekend and i said the same thing, and she said don't worry i wont drink alot just enough to dance...

and I don't know what i should do in my situation - i can't believe either or her roommate doesn't want me to tell her i know all the things she told me, and the girl i been dating i don't think she is the type like that... we didn't have sex till 4 months of dating.... so I don't think she is the type of person will just do something just because.... any suggestions or comments? are girls really afraid of a commitment? what about this situation?


~Az

[zoezeroseven]

Of course, I only know what you have written here, but I can maybe relate to what this woman might be doing. Right after she got out of a long term relationship, she met you, a person she now sees herself being with. At the same time, another long term relationship is too soon, so she has a little fun trying out someone else's arms. I'm not saying she slept with that other guy, but maybe they slept next to eachother.

Her roommate is a little sketchy. People will adjust the truth to get what they want....

She did not sleep with him, I know her very well by now - she is not the type to just sleep with anyone. Plus her roommate told she didn't.... but The funny thing is haha I knew that she hooked up with another guy that night - not from anyone else just a gut feeling and i had the same gut feeling during spring break..

So what should I do? in this situation? should i just move on? or ? I am not going to watch her hook up with other people before she knows she is making a right decsion...


~Az

[morrigan]

She's meeting other guys, she likes you, but it doesn't sound like she's going to be getting serious with anyone at this point in time.

If you are open to her dating/sleeping with other guys, and are aware she might become interested in another guy and end things with you, keep dating her. If you are really serious about her, and you don't want to be with her unless she only wants to be with you, stop dating her. You can't make her commit to you, and she doesn't have a right to demand you to hang around waiting for her to make a decision.

[overseas2004]

Cmon you guys are still throwing up at parties and you metnion marriage. Please.

But on a more serious note I think the girl just does not want a relationship now. She is having second thoughts because the timing is not ok.

And the roomate sounds like she is lying to you because she wants to do ya...

Good luck ... what a mess.