[Justanothersomebody]

well there is this gal my brother is in a college course with.She told him to say Hi to me & got into a conversation about me callin me smart & all the hoopla.

The reason she did so is cause way back when (in 5th grade) we kinda went out.Im 23 now I think shes round 22 23.He told her I was doin pretty good for myself when the actual is that im half way thru my welding course & am still seeking work.

How should I go about this cause i tend to come across agressive meaning I like to talk to whom ever I may be so lucky enough to have the right to of the opposite sex.Im not a player but I guess I might have some sense of game but rarely do I ever spit it cause im kinda appauled by the ideal of it.

Anyone know what route i shoud take & how I should go about this even if there is a remote possibility that her & I start talkin?

[Papillon]

Yknow, the funny (in a good way) thing about these kinds of posts, is that the poster always knows what he/she wants, but doesn't realise it. They already know the answer to the question, but seem stuck on some personal indecision or hang-up.

The answer is simple: Talk to her, man! If you like her, then focus your energy on her!

There's a girl here at work who supposedly is madly in love with me (so her co-workers she's confided in, tell me). Thing is, she never ever shows even a hint of it. She seemingly avoids eye-contact, doesn't flirt, makes no attempt to strike up conversations, even though we are alone OFTEN.

Now tell me, am I going to feel the attraction back? No, definitely not.

So if you're interested, SHOW IT! If you don't have contact often, then arrange something with your bro where the two of you would be "accidentily" thrown together.

[Justanothersomebody]

I havent seen her in years.Im afraid of the hole reaction to my apperance & feelin insecure & shy about this.
Last gal I talked to I scared off.

Yes true I know what I would like to do but am kinad afraid of the pursuit.
I just want to look better & have some money before I start talkin to her so incase something works out we would be able to go out & do something.

[reasontosigh]

when the actual is that im half way thru my welding course & am still seeking work......I just want to look better & have some money before I start talkin to her so incase something works out we would be able to go out & do something.

How much longer do you have to go in your course?

You don't want to wait too long or you run the risk of her possibly losing interest. A coffee date is a good first encounter, or in your case, re-encounter. It gives you both a chance to catch up and see where things stand or may be going, and it doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg either.

Since you are still in school (and I'm guessing this place offers job placement assistance) it'll be rather easy for her to see you are going places. Try not to worry so much - I'm thinking all will work out well in the end.

[Justanothersomebody]

I have until october started last september.I did manage to get one of the highest grades they sayed theyve recorded in a while (note that grades rely more on shop work than book)

I want to loose a few pounds 10 or 20 so I atleast look decent enough & dont feel so self concious.Im usually nervous in these situations.Im all good on the phone but in person i can get locked up.I got piercings a couple tats & a branding so Im self conscious about that so maybe I could take out the piercings.

Then If I do start talkin to her I might do like I usually do & try to call to often scaring her away cause I dont know why ther is a game like that nor do I know how to play it.

I also need to find anotehr band to sing for.Ive talked to a few places highering but they required me to spend money i dont have to get the job.
I can pass a piss test cause i movedon with my life & stopped smokin pot a few months ago.

Also Im Bipolar so im kinda affraid of being in a gitty mood around her & makin her think im wierd.Maybe I need to be dropped on my head.LoL

Should I tell my brother to work in our number sometime so she could give me a call?

[reasontosigh]

Should I tell my brother to work in our number sometime so she could give me a call?

Now there's an idea! You might feel more comfortable after a couple of phone conversations.

Also Im Bipolar so im kinda affraid of being in a gitty mood around her & makin her think im wierd.Maybe I need to be dropped on my head.LoL

Being dropped on your head will only give you a helluva headache, if not a concussion. Are you on meds for it?

I also need to find another band to sing for.Ive talked to a few places hiring but they required me to spend money i dont have to get the job.

That sounds like a scam if ever I've heard one!

[Justanothersomebody]

Originally posted by reasontosigh

Being dropped on your head will only give you a helluva headache, if not a concussion. Are you on meds for it? [/quote]
No I havent for about a month now because they where giving me headaches.I started takin them at the beginning of the year maybe a lil earlier & I havent been in a down mood since.Im almost always in a good mood.I have a tendancy to make ppl laugh & sometimes be annoying when in a good mood.


[/quote] That sounds like a scam if ever I've heard one! [/quote]
Yep atleast i didnt have to find out the hardway.

should I take out my percings if i was to meet her?

Maybe Ill tell my brother to tell her i said hi next time their in class & maybe after that Ill tell him to slip in our number so it doesnt seem like im being the aggresor(like i said ive been prone to that in passed attempts of relationships & friendships)