[moimeme]

OK. We've established that I'm a dunce when it comes to the 'giving signals' business. Fair enough and I continue to welcome input on that.

Second question involves seduction.

I said it elsewhere, but basically I've always thought that trying to seduce someone is tantamount to trying to trap or trick someone by appealing to sex. I have nothing against sex whatsoever, but I think it's powerful stuff - almost like a drug. I wouldn't try to win a guy by drugging him; similarly I don't want someone's interest to be gained through desire. If a fellow likes the personality and the brain enough to take up with me, then he gets that other aspect in abundance but I want him to think I'm worth sticking around even when the hormone fog finally clears so I don't want to create that fog in case it confuses him.

I realize this view is neither common nor likely even popular. I'd be interested in differing viewpoints (though if anybody else actually agrees with me, that'll be cool to know too). Also I'm interested in men's viewpoints on this.

If a woman isn't being seductive or flirting, do you just then assume she's not interested at all? Do you want to be 'drugged' into being interested in someone? (this is mostly facetious)