[Henman122]

Recently my girlfriend just broke up with me saying that she wanted a break to find the old spark we once had together and possibly after we see other people or have time apart get back together. However I am a very jealous person and saw her one night with another man. I admit i went overboard and accused her of something i did not see. However she is now dating the guy i saw her with that night. She tells me she doesnt want to be involved with anyone right now but hangs out with him alot. I seem to wake up every morning missing her more and more realizing what i did and how i need to change. Should I just break off contact with her completely give it time try to fix myself up and try to get back with her? Or should I just move on change my ways for the next girl I meet and try to be happy?

[from ND]

dude, my chick cheated on me and i hopped a train to seattle, sounds like your ex is playing games, i wouldnt chase her or call her or nothin, eventually if its real love, she will se the error in her ways, sound like she wants her cake and eat it too, i would at least "act" like she dont matter to you, and blow her off, if she really wants you , shell start contacting you. it may hurt for a while, but at least you ll find out, calling her or chase her will make her want to hurt you more, cause she know youre interested, its a chik thing later!

[BklynGuy]

If I were you, I'd let her alone. She's not worth it. Whatever you thought, you were probably right. Women sometimes go out w/other guys while keeping a backup. Don't let yourself be the backup. I let this happen to myself for many years, and wound up with nothing. It's just not worth it.