[miscel]

If you broke up with your girlfriend because you were unsure about your feelings and she starts dating again a week or two later, how do you feel about that?

Do you want her back just because she is dating and you dont want her to see anyone else?

Or do you realize that you do still love her?

Do you get jealous and want her back?

Do you think she never really loved you because she is dating again?

Or do you understand that maybe she is trying to move on because you broke up with her and told her you didnt know if you loved her anymore?

Does it make your heart grow fonder for her?

[wishfullthinker2004]

I understand the questions going through ur mind. My boyfriend is seeing someone (or so he says)...even made love to her on the same place that we did. I wreck my brain constantly...he is states away, so I can't even see for sure.

I don't know how to answer those questions...isn't that why we are here? It hurts to see and hear them with someone new. You were that #1 person. Now ur number 2, or maybe 3. Actually hurt is not the word...sting maybe...heart broken, yes. Willing to do absolutely anything to make them realize you still love them and still care.

[miscel]

As much as I would love for him to come back to me, I would like to keep myself open to dating.
I dont want him to come back under false pretenses, like he just doesnt want me to be with someone else. And I dont want him to think that I never really loved him because I am dating again.
Damn it he is the one who broke up, but I want that chance of him coming back, I also dont want to live like a nun if he is out there dating too.

so confused and hurt.

[wishfullthinker2004]

What I'm trying to do, is keep my heart open, as much as I SO want to get a plane ticket to florida and show up and his door step...maybe if he sees me he will realize he loves me still...well, that is just crazy.

Right now, I don't want to date again. I know what you mean about not dating. I don't find absolutely anyone attractive except him. No one else compares, physicallly, or mentally. I think in my head at night, he is sitting there holding her in my spot...with all my things still there? When his away sign on IM goes away in the middle of the night, was he just with her, and now in online? Just craziness goes through your head. I wish I could take my brain out and wring it, maybe through it against the wall.

Its hard to see whether or not you want him back cuz he is dating again. I know I wanted him back BEFORE I heard he was dating. He said he met her on a chance, and he really likes her. UGH! What a flipping stab in the heart. I don't know if he is saying these things becuz I hurt him in the beginning. Maybe this is his sort of revenge. He is a very honest person, he wouldn't lie, so I think.

I guess we just need to take it one day at a time. Some people are single for YEARS, maybe months before they move on. I don't want that. Then again I want that to find myself again. Maybe even start eating and sleeping normally.

I know, you think that the other person will take your spot. They will like them more. That is hard to handle.

wishful