[shychica]

Hi I posted this message on the coping, board and did get much response. Please help:

Hello,

I am new the board. I wondering if you could help me with this problem. How do you deal with seeing you ex every single day at work or school. I was seeing this guy for a little while and everything seemed all good. To make a long story short, one day he did something I didn't like (letting this girl grind up against him), so I told him how I felt about it (i didn't act rude or yell). Well the next I know he turn around the argument and pointed out some things I did wrong (like letting my friends in our business). I tried to talking things out with him and apologise, but basically he was unresponsive and he felt like I was crowding him too much. Here it is almost a year later he still acts really distant with me. I haven't brought up the subject since last summer. We both made mistakes and I'm willing to accept responsibility.

My major problem right now is dealing with seeing him everyday. This relationship is so hard to get over, because I still care so much for him and I felt like there was no closure. It would be easy for me if he was willing to talk to me or if I didn't see him all the time, but the fact that we are in each other's presence on a daily basis makes it just that much harder. What do I do ? Please give me some scenarios and/or opinions.

I need as much repose as possible

Thank you in advance.

[morrigan]

It takes courage, but you could be honest and say to him, "I know we're uncomfortable around eachother, and I feel bad about it. I just want to let you know I don't have hard feelings towards you, and I'm sorry if it seemed that way. I'm not expecting us to be friends, I would just like both of us to get along."

If he is still unresponsive, just be as polite as you can be in daily situations. It's the best you can do.