[dijenush]

heyya ppl. I have a problem. Me x broke up with me nearly 2 month ago, stating that he cannot deal with a relationship (he had some psychological problems, divorced twice with no obvious reason). In this time i met a lot of ppl, guys, but all i could think about is my X. I still love him more than ever.

He, however, seems to go on just fine. I visited his website recently (he is a photographer) and saw some really interesting pics with some other girl drinking from MY cup (that is the cup he bought me to drink from while i'm at his place). I now i am hurting. what made him change his opinion about me? in other words, what made him realise i'm not as "cool" as he thought me to be?

[Karlise]

Well, I don't know what kind of 'psychological' problems your ex has...but maybe one of them is the inability to be intimate?
Or the inability to commit?

Or perhaps the inability to be honest? Maybe he had a good time with you hon, but now he wants to screw around with other people.

It has nothing to do with how 'cool' you are. He just wants to do what he wants to do.
It's not about you.

And I know that's hard to believe.

You felt special for a while and even had a special cup at his house...and now some new girl is drinking out of it! He's probably telling her it's HER special cup now, right?

It's probably his normal mode of operation, kiddo.

Move on...move up. You can do better.
He's given you some strong messages already.

[BklynGuy]

It takes time to accept the breakup. I felt as you do when my ex dumped me. I thought we had a 'good' relationship. We did for a few years, then things began going downhill slowly. In my mind it was still perfect. My ex took me for a ride, and I held her above all.

The ignorance was bliss, realizing the ugly truth hurt like hell. I couldn't accept it for a while, but it's not so bad anymore. Time will heal your wounds & you don't need someone like that.