[greyskies]

If you are with someone for three years and they get their own place by themself. Would you exspect them to ask you to move in with them. Maybe its me but im really butt hurt that my s/o is getting their own place but has not asked me to movein too. Are they out of line or am I.

[Thinkalot]

Neither one of you is out of line, because there are no set rights or wrongs. I depends on the people, the relationship, your expectations etc. Have you discussed this stuff before? Is this a change of heart for him?

Have you discussed it with him now? HOw did he react?

Communication might clear up a few things. Otherwise, if he's not ready to take that step, find out why, and find out if you can live with the reasons and if they seem reasonable. If he is really committment shy, and you are ready for marriage for example, you may both be at different stages in the relationship.

Personally, I'd probably be a bit hurt too and want to know where he was at.

[Iamhappy]

I'd be concerned especially if it was something you'd previously discussed.

You've been together for THREE years. If it were me, I'd be asking questions about the level of commitment each party has to the other.

What do you picture the next level in your relationship to be?