I have been dating a new girl for over 5 months and separated from my ex girl for over 1 year. Me and my ex have had sex maybe 4 times over that one year time frame. Recently we hooked up one night at a night club and went home together. We had crazy sex and have been doing so for 4-5 days now. I cant get her out of my head at all and now she is talking about us getting back together... The catch is she has a boyfriend too for about 9 months.... I need someone to talk to me and help me out please.... I cant turn to my friends because I cant trust them... I love my new girl and she loves her man but we are in love with each other....
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I would have to say that you both have got to dump your girl and guy. You cant hurt them like this. Nothing else matters. Just let the two of them go. Do not be concerned for thier feelings because you have already hurt any respect you had for her. Do not be concerned about what will happen with this ex in the future, you can cross that bridge when you get there. For now, the only thing to do is for you guys to break up with the others.
If you could do that tommorrow that would be great...Thanks...(this said in an overly officious way)
It really is the best thing. Do it soon. The longer you wait the harder it will be on the girl that you say you care for.
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I am some what hesitant to get back with her if she is cheating on her current man... Reason being is that she would do it to me but she says that I am different and she is in love with me so she cant control it... She says that after one year her feelings are still there...... I am so confused as to even leave my current girl
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that is what i am saying. Leave the current girl. You cannot stay with her. It does not matter what happens with the 'new/ex' girl in the future. What matters right now is not hurting the current girl. You will hurt her when you leave her but it is better now than later. You could even tell her why. Not that you actually slept with the ex but that you havent gotten over her yet and you think the two of you may be able to work it out. This may seem harsh but is it better than just letting her wonder and pine for you thinking that you may change your mind. It will allow her to begin moving on immediately.
Originally posted by dyermaker
1. All opinions are biased.
2. Don't crosspost.
3. Don't measure your self-worth on whether or not you have a girlfriend.
I dont but have a girlfriend allows me to focus on work and other things in life... It is a comfort issue
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If he thinks that was biased wait till befuddled get ahold of 'em. Then hell see that I was mild
You are gonna do what you want to do. Obviously. I have just told you what should be done. But this is the route that someone who actually has respect for his current girl would take. Oh well. Stay with her, keep sleeping with the ex, she finds out, and she will women always do, then lose everyone. Including all your friends.
your right about women finding out... Thats so true....
What is hurting me right now and confusing me is .... I honestly dont know if I wanna get back with the ex because I use her as my motivation in life to push and strive further... I dont know if that makes any sense but I
used our breakup as a driving force in my life... I use it to push on...
Secondly... By me getting back with my ex... Isnt that me moving backwards in life... I mean arent we supposed to just move on and dont look back...
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