My boyfriend and I didn't see eachother all weekend, and today he tells me he thinks that we should take a break.
He says him and his friend were talking and his friend told him that my boyfriend looks happier when he's around other people, people that are not me. Mind you, this friend has seen me and my boyfriend together twice. Twice. Me and my boyfriend have been together for nine months tomorrow (good timing, right?) and I am so so sad. Torn.
My boyfriend came and picked me up because I told him that we needed to talk about this in person. I cried like crazy and all the while he kept on holding me, hugging me, telling me I still meant more to him than anyone else. He'd hold my face in his hands and wipe away my tears. Part of me wanted to tell him not to touch me, but at the same time the only thing that I wanted to do was be in his arms.
I'm not sure what brought this whole break on. I asked him if he thinks that his friend is right, and he said that he didn't know. He told me that he isn't sure what he is feeling, and that he just wants to see if his friend is right. Basically, our break is going to last a little under two weeks. I'm going away for spring break for a few days, and when I get back he's going to tell me where things are going.
During our whole "break" where do I draw the line? Should I stop talking to him all together? Or what?
This is all so unexpected and doesn't make any sense. I'm literally sick to my stomach about all of this.
Any advice is highly appreciated.
If it makes any difference, I'm almost seventeen and he almost 18
wow dyermaker, that's the shortest thing i've ever seen you respond to!
but umm, yea i agree, draw the line. the relationship consists of only you and him.. his friends are brain washing him. some of my bf friend has seen us together 2-3 times, and talks a lot of sh*t about me. they stalk me too, god knows why, i don't even talk to other guys or do anything wrong.
my bf hears them out, defends me if need, but he's smart enough to know, that he can make the decision on his own.
Breaks are either genuine or a nice way of dumping someone.
If it's genuine, not contacting him will be complying with his request for such space.
If it's a nice way of saying "I'm dumping you", as it usually is, not contacting him will preserve your dignity, and allow the easiest (an understatement, I know, but the alternatives are WAY worse) path towards getting over him.
Don't you have any friends you can go round to who'll comfort you and feed you chocolate while you cry?
Try to keep calm (I know it's hard) but bottom line is your 'ex' is sorting stuff out and he has been 'honest' enough to try and let you down easy.
I don't know any details about him and a third party and no friend should be able to split a couple up by making a few comments, so this is about your boyfriend and how he feels about you. He might come out straight in a couple of weeks and tell you he doesn't love you anymore or he may want to get back together, in the meantime, try and find someone to support you and remember, if he doesn't love you the way you deserve to be loved, he isn't deserving of you tears..
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