I met this guy through work and we have now known each other for about a year. We had a crush on each other for the longest time and our relationship has slowly become more intimate. There were a few obtacles in the way at first (exes, location...) but they are now gone. We have a lot of fun at work together and we also chat outside the office. He is one of my best friends.

Anyway, I ended up staying the night with him a few weeks ago and had an amazing time. He was extra sweet to me at work that week although I'm not sure if that was genuine or whether he just wanted to assure me he wouldn't end it immediately after I slept with him. Anyway, he has been "busy" the past two weekends, then we went to a function last night and I stayed over again. I unfortunately lost my cool at one point (I'd say after about the 2nd bottle of wine) and made a side comment about how I was not too impressed about him ditching me over the past couple of weekends. He then said something about how he can't be rushed. I felt like screaming, "WE'VE BEEN DEVELOPING THIS FREAKING RELATIONSHIP FOR A YEAR, HOW MUCH MORE TIME DO YOU NEED??"

He has also told me before about how toxic his last r'ship was; that he fell madly in love with this girl who never so much as told him she liked him (they went out for 2 years). I feel like by making myself available or by letting him know that I like him, it is turning him off. This sucks. I've been playing this hard to get game for a year and I'm telling you, I'm just about to drop my bundle!

Any ideas on how I can get this guy to take me more seriously? I find myself manipulating situations so I can get mad at him and generally being a heinous bitch to him sometimes just because of all the underlying resentment. It's driving me crazy, I just want the games to stop. WHAT TO DO??

[mauler2]

I honestly don’t see why the guy would want to go near you after that. You’re obviously just on a high after the sex. Go away. Go on. Scat.

Just kidding. I think this guy has decided to pull back because he thinks you’ll get bored of him. I often do this to my girl in order to make her obsess over me. I do it because I’m paranoid she’s get bored of me. True. Time apart is healthy, and I think you should slow down.

One year of ‘playing hard to get’ sounds painful. I would never do that. Two months is all I could stand. But you sound like a stretched rubber band that has just been let go and now you’re going too fast with the momentum. Act cool and make him want you. Get your mind on something else. He’ll take you seriously if you show an interest in something other than him.

I swear, every time my girl talks to other guys about movies, I go nuts. I LOVE MOVIES! STOP TALKING TO THEM! TALK TO ME!

[moimeme]

Just kidding. I think this guy has decided to pull back because he thinks you’ll get bored of him. I often do this to my girl in order to make her obsess over me. I do it because I’m paranoid she’s get bored of me.

Cripes! Some people would just decide that you're too quixotic and dump you. Playing games can backfire on you bigtime. Lovethose, you may have to get used to the fact that this guy is gunshy. Your relationship changed and he took time out - maybe to process it and decide whether he really wants to go forward. Give him a bit more time. If you hate games, make sure he knows it.