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Old 3rd March 2004, 5:48 PM   #1
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cannot talk to friend at the moment

im having problem making conversation between me and a certain friend of mine.

my friend has been very upset and depressed lately as she has just discovered that her grandmther has a terminal illness.this is affected her greatly.i tried to say that she is welcome to talk to me about anything but i kind of mucked things up with her and had to get to the phone to explain myself fully.she understood and its a settled issue now.

i tried to talk to her again today and its just so awkward.how do i go about being normal?i have no idea how to make conversation as normal with this hanging over both of us.shes a great friend and shes normally so happy.i just have no idea hpw to spark conversation between us no more.is it best just to leave her alone for the time being?

thanks for any help.
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Old 3rd March 2004, 5:59 PM   #2
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May Just Need Time

In this kind of a situation, you have done the best you can. No need to approach that type of discussion at this point. She knows you're there for her, and if she needs you, no doubt she will talk.

Let the matter lay for now, and go on about discussing other things. Perhaps it's a situation where she needs you to be an escape of sorts, to just enjoy time with, and take her mind off of troubling thoughts.

If you become more concerned about her emotional state (if she shows worrisome changes, etc., might be an idea to seek more professional assistance for her.

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Old 3rd March 2004, 6:07 PM   #3
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She's your friend, so you know her best, but if it was me I'd say to her that you're not sure whether she wants to talk about her grandmother or whether she wants distraction. Let her know you're there for her whatever and keep in touch so she knows you mean it.

I agree with Curt - if you're worried she's becoming depressed, try to get her to see someone about it.
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