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Old 1st March 2004, 4:23 PM   #1
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Trust, respect Issue

I sent a text message to my ex saying "Trust, respect and friendship equal what?

and she replied

My ex says "I do not trust u and you talk of respect of which we have very little for each other. But as a friend I love u."

What can I say or do to change the way she feels about those topics?
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Old 1st March 2004, 6:19 PM   #2
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Try pointing out to her that even friends need trust and respect, and she will no doubt stop loving you as a friend.
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Old 1st March 2004, 6:24 PM   #3
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you can't. let this one go.
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Old 1st March 2004, 6:27 PM   #4
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I don't think she knows what love is.
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Old 1st March 2004, 6:34 PM   #5
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You cannot change how he/she feels. As an individual he/she has the right to feel how he/she wants. So far as friends go, you may want to point out that trust and respect are necessary things in a friendship.

I wouldn't be surprised if he/she replied "then there is no friendship."

This is something to walk away from.
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Old 1st March 2004, 6:38 PM   #6
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every friendship needs respect, trust and some form of caring or loving. why is everyone saying walk away? how bout working on it? talking to her why she thinks of you and your friendship/ relationship in that way. you dont have to walk away.
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Old 1st March 2004, 6:42 PM   #7
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Why the hell did you text her that to begin with? There would've been no good response to that.
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Old 1st March 2004, 6:48 PM   #8
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I sent a text message to my ex saying "Trust, respect and friendship equal what?

Obviously, in her point of view....not you! (I was JOKING!)

Once you've blown that trust and respect.....it's gonna take more than a text message to repair it.

If you are serious, talk to her face to face. Not in a riddle.
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Old 2nd March 2004, 5:35 AM   #9
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Originally posted by jenny
you can't. let this one go.

What do u mean by that Jenny?

UCFKevin, I sent her that message because those are importnat point in any relationship. So I wanted to know how she felt about that towards me. I am going to sit down and talk to her about it and try work on it. But not so that we can get back together just to create peace I guess. But i do not want us to end up defending ourselfs and talk about specific issues.

Or I could just be wasting my time and energy??
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Old 2nd March 2004, 5:41 AM   #10
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Most definitely you are wasting your time. The kind of cosmic, peace-creating, non-specific dialogue you seek is not going to happen through text messages...especially not after what you did. (We all heard about it, by the way.) Just move on, and make sure you don't pull that stunt again or you aren't going to have any girlfriends left.
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Old 2nd March 2004, 1:47 PM   #11
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Advice

Take SoleMate's advice.....
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