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GF of 4 years broke up with me on Valentine's Day.....I'm devastated!!!
Hi everyone, I found this forum after I typed in the search "how to get my girlfriend back" in Google. So I came here and found many situations similar to mine, but I still wanted to hear some comments in response to my situation.
My girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me on Valentine's Day, of all days. We are both 21, she goes to school in California and I go to school in Utah. However, the long distance between us has never really been a problem, as we have spent 3 of our 4 years in this situation. We usually see each other once every 6 or so weeks, and would talk on the phone multiple times a day. I was planning on coming to spend Valentine's weekend with her, like I have done the last two Valentine's. But the night before I was to come, she said to me that she didn't think I should come, then that she wasn't she wanted me to come, then she said don't come. I was so upset and she didn't give a reason, but I respected her wishes. Well, it went from "don't come" to "I need a break" to "We're broken up" to "I've met someone else." It has been the worst 2 weeks of my entire life, never have I felt this low. Everything was fine up to the night she told me not to come. We were having great conversations and were really excited to see each other. Like an idiot, I spent most of the week and a half following the break up calling her. We could normally spend about 2 minutes talking about platonic things before I would launch into my defense. I would beg and plead with her. It would just make her really upset and she would say she couldn't talk to me anymore. So we don't talk at all, it is very hard but from all the posts I have read, the "no contact rule" is the best course of action. I am just barely starting to eat and sleep again, but I still feel terrible. I cannot fathom in my wildest dreams how someone who spent 4 years in a very positive and loving relationship could first break up with someone, then launch into another relationship! She has already admitted to being with this guy every day, kissing him, etc. That is so hard to accept! It seemed to me that this guy had to have come into the picture alot sooner than she told me, but she has always been very honest and claims she told me right when it happened. She said that "she had never felt this way about another guy the whole 4 years we have been dating." She also says that the door is not closed on me and her, but that right now she cannot be with me. I have heard many cliche's, enough to make me sick. If it's meant to be, it will happen. Well how will it happen if I can't see her and can't talk to her? If she lives in California and I in Utah, how will it "happen." I am so confused and hurt. We had plans to get married at the end of this year, one of us would move to where the other one is. I thought about giving her about a week of no contact, then writing her a letter telling her how I feel. It might come across different in a letter than on the phone. Good or bad idea? Any help would be appreciated. I just want my baby back, I really feel she is making a mistake! Do I have any hope at all? Thanks everyone.
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