[neely]

ok....i posted a message last week about this girl and me...coming back into each others life....and that the timing wasnt right....well it was so hard to deny our feelings for each other and we were hanging out with other people over the weekend... and the attraction was so strong and it was hard to not want to be with her alone....so we left together......and it went great.....talked all night....and figured we would just go with it.....and see what happens.....its great....we are like amazed that the attraction feels so good and real.....i have never had such a mutual attraction (not just physical) with someone before.....i can really see my self falling in love with her.....

But i dont want to rush into anything.....we are in the same place....we feel the same....and it acually feels real good.....but now my head is spinning....and i just wanted some feedback on if anyone understands what im talking about....howdo people know if its right???.....like its like everything in all areas so far fit....and we are both amazed....with the whole thing.....im happy.... shes happy ....its good right now....both of our intentions are the same.....im getting kinda scared but in a good way......like im thinking is this "THE ONE"? help me out if anyone has been here in my shoes thanks for listening!!!! looking forward to some responses.....

[moimeme]

Understand that many, MANY relationships start out exactly like yours. In the absence of much information, we seize upon that we have, which is often mostly good, and project that into the future. Understand that you need more information before you can make that decision, and that that information will only come through much communication and learning about each other.

Meanwhile, enjoy the 'high' you're experiencing now; just don't mistake it for a sign of 'true love' or permanence.

A sad but true fact is that the most exciting period of a relationship is almost always the beginning. The other person often seems like they're perfect and that you guys will get along 100% if you end up in a long-term relationship. This is what many people refer to as the "honeymoon period" of the relationship.

Unfortunately, this period will eventually end. First of all, people initially tend to idealize the other person of interest. They focus on their good qualities and will ignore the bad ones. Believe me--there is no such thing as a perfect match. The best you can hope for is that your mate doesn't have any qualities that you absolutely can't stand and their bad qualities aren't too big of a deal for you.

So why all the excitement in the beginning? It's just the way the human mind works. People are excited by the unknown. At this stage, a lot about you two is unknown. The excitement comes from waiting to find out more. It's stimulating to ponder where the relationship's going and whether it'll work out. That's why most movies are far more exciting to watch the first time than the second time around when you already know the ending.

With that said, don't take this post to mean that all relationships end up being dull and pointless. If both of you put in enough effort, a relationship can definately be highly rewarding and exciting--just not as much as the beginning. Good luck mate.

Captain Nemo