need advice on 2 1/2 year relationship

problematic

Hey, thank-you for taking the time for reading this, I am really grateful. I am just looking for a bit of advice from other people as to my relationship. First of all a bit about our relationship.

I met my girlfriend about 2 and a half years ago at a local youth event. Over time we got to know each other and a few months later we started going out. Things went well for about a year then until I came and told her I had been looking at porn for a short period of time when we first were going out but I stopped because I considered it cheating on her and I just felt it was wrong. However I wanted to come forward and be honest with her.

After that things started to change. She became a lot more protective of me though things such as keeping my eyes and head down when out and around (I agreed to this as it is no big deal) and stuff like not watching TV. I don’t do bad things on my own (such as look at porn) or even thinking about doing such things, I am really satisfied in my relationship with my girlfriend but it seems like my story always changes when I tell her things that have gone wrong (which I do not do intentionally) and break small promises such as doing my laundry on different day so I do not come across other family members clothing.

At the same time she has given up a lot for me (without me asking or even knowing) such as professional singing where she would have to perform in front of guys and she is very careful at school. I do not often ask her to do certain things that may be taken as overprotective. I am more about her safety and keeping her out of situations that she might get hurt in, because I really do care a lot about her and am very concerned about other guys doing as they please. I guess you could look at it as a "I want you to be how I am" situation coming from her.

It is not that I have a problem with how things are, but I feel really bad for letting her down all the time without even meaning too, she says I don’t use common sense but I have never had to do things like this before (not that I mind doing them for the most part). My greatest concern is the future when I need to drive more, or get a job I will have to interact with others more and I really do not want to hurt her, yet I do not know what to do.

I know you may say we are young and overprotective of each other (17 years old) but we love each other very much and our sex life is very good. I have no plans to leave her or anything like that, wouldn’t even consider it at this time, however I am looking for advice as to how to help the current situation in this aspect of our lives. Thank-you very much for your time once again, I am so very grateful.