[jmargel]

Alot of people have legitimate problems and come to this board for help.

Then there are the 'porn' posts. Its always chicks complaining about their guy looking at porn, funny how I never heard of a guy complaining that his chick is looking at porn.. anyway.. This will hopefully help all you confused women out there about this issue.

I'm making a judgement that about 99% of us men view porn, and yes we do it at times alone. No we do not love these images we see on screen, nor would we dump you for them if there was ever the slight chance that one of these women would present themselves to us.

The women who are complaining about their man's porn use, basically comes down to an insecurity that you have within' your own body. Telling him or making him feel guilty enough to not view it is only the beginning of a controlling behavior over your jealously which will ultimately make the guy leave or hide it from you.

Men are attracted to beauty, and us men like a variety of things, sexually. Even if you were able to change a man with his 'viewing' habits, you can't change what he thinks. Or perhaps the women who like to control a man's porn viewing habit that might be their next attempt. Might as well give him a labotomy and have him stare blankly into space. I guess perhaps the only way to cure your insecurities would be to know that you completely own him in every possible sense.

So instead of driving him away, why not embrace it & do this thing with him. I find it kinda funny that all these women on here complain about porn, yet my fiancee on Sat. night asked if we could get a porn. It was a lesibian one at that. She also is wanting a 3 some, and talking to her about the jealously her comment was 'Its just sex, there is a huge difference between the two'. 'I completely trust you'. Right there is another word. TRUST. Us men watching porn is not going to drive us away from you, but will actually do the opposite. Make us closer to you, because we can be more open about things.

Porn is not evil, nor it is there to be a competition with you, unless you make it that way. If my fiancee wants a porn with some hot guy on it, that's cool. Nothing wrong with watching & getting turned on by it.

So before all you anti-porn people reply in this thread, think hard about how secure you feel in your relationship. That's what it stems down to.