Ever since I started working at my new job a couple of months ago there has been this girl that always smiles, waves at me, and says hi, even from across the building. Less than a week ago one of her friends approached me and asked me If I was single, and If I was looking. I told her I am single and looking. She then told me the girl that has been smiling at me thinks I am really Hot. The next day "The girl" and I exchange phone numbers. Our 3 conversations have been just chit chat, we're still getting to know each other.

"The girl" said that she wants to be friends and take it day by day. If this was any other girl I would immediately think she was not interested. But I've been told by one of her close friends and another friend of hers that she has been hurt in the past very badly and has not had a boyfriend in 2 years. She is a very sweet and kind girl. Is she not interested? Or does she have a protective barrier up to save her from another broken heart? So by saying she want's to be friends means she want's to get know me very well first and once she finds out I won't hurt her she'll be ready for a relationship with me.

I'm very confused can someone help? I would really like to get a womans point of view on this as well.

[jmargel]

So by saying she want's to be friends means she want's to get know me very well first and once she finds out I won't hurt her she'll be ready for a relationship with me.

That's what she is saying. Ask her out and see what she says. Good luck..

If she's working tonight I'll ask her. Thanks.

[Wounded Unicorn]

I think she wants to see if the two of you are compatible and get to really know "you" and take things from there. Yes, she is protecting herself from further heartbreak and I don't blame her.

"How can something that feel so good hurt so bad? One of lifes unsoved mysteries"

[Regulus]

Very very rarely are women going to come out and say they like someone to that person's face...they want to be pursued... You've got the green light from another person. Ask her out and never mention the fact that someone told you that she liked you. good luck

[amerikajin]

Don't use the phone to chit chat. The next time you call her, get to the point. Ask her out. If she's got issues, that's her problem, not yours.

[corythosaurus]

She waves to you and says "hi", she had a friend approach you, and she gave you her number. She's interested.

If she feels the need to take it slow and get to know you better, then take it slow and get to know her better as well.

Only you can decide whether you are interested in her. And, it sounds like you are, so ask her to lunch or to get coffee on a break, simple low pressure type things.