[monkey00]

today i went to eat and pool with some friends, this shy girl that is my friend's friend happened to come along today. this was my 3rd encounter w/her today...this time it was different, she talked to me. and me being there thinking she was shy, well she still is of course a little sometimes.
she's mad cute!

whenever i talk to her i see her cute smile, altho whenever i talk to girls i always forget to pay attention to their eyes dilation. most of the time it's tough to find stuff to talk to her about, cause usually there's not much to say. and i think i know all there is to know about her....so yea it's tough to have a chat w/her most of the time. the other 2 friends behind us are tease playing and me and her just walk together quietly, both of us usually dont know what to say to each other. usually i can think of stuff to say immediately, just this time my mind has just zoned out...
i can't tell if she's nervous around me cause she's attracted to me or what. when the other dude was showing her how to shoot the pool stick and touching her hands, i realized it was the first time i was jealous over a girl...just a little, after that i was fine...i didnt lose my cool.

anyway i think we agreed to a movie for sunday, us 4 again, me another guy and my female friend and the cute girl. altho im not sure, anyway...i'm planning to ask her out to dinner or stuff when i see her tomorrow. altho i didnt compliment anything on her looks, i think it was a good move, cause it showed that i wasnt needy or after something(sex)

do you think she was nervous around me? im really unsure, i hear that nervous girls are usually attracted to you.
and before i ask her out, should i make any moves in the theatre?
how often had a girl with high interest in you say "yes" to going out? i'm pretty confident she'll say yes, but i'd like to hear what you guys have to say.

[monkey00]

also...i just realized that the times when we were chatting in the street and the other dude butted in or got close to us, our convo just ended w/o finishing...it's like i dont feel it's appropriate to talk anymore w/her and she feels the same vice versa also, just cause he's near us. almost like she doesnt chat w/me unless we're alone, when we're all shooting pool together..she doesnt chat w/me, only when we're walking together distant from the other 2

what does this mean!?

[dyermaker]

did a girl say "yes" when you asked her out?

Pfft, of course

i'm gonna ask out this cute girl

Moving right along, things look great, and I wish you the best--hopefully you'll find a fulfilling relationship and move right on past your past. Best of luck. Don't worry so much about reading minds, that's her job. Just do what you can, learn what works, and if she likes you at all, she'll work with that.

[monkey00]

Originally posted by dyermaker
Pfft, of course

Moving right along, things look great, and I wish you the best--hopefully you'll find a fulfilling relationship and move right on past your past. Best of luck. Don't worry so much about reading minds, that's her job. Just do what you can, learn what works, and if she likes you at all, she'll work with that.

thx dude, but do you think im moving things too fast by asking her out so soon? i've only had 3 encounters w/her so far, and today's encounter was when we started talking. and tomorrow at the movies would count as another.

[dyermaker]

Originally posted by monkey00
thx dude, but do you think im moving things too fast by asking her out so soon? i've only had 3 encounters w/her so far, and today's encounter was when we started talking. and tomorrow at the movies would count as another.

Asking her out is what you DO fast, if you don't, you could be doomed to platonic relations forever. If you're going to the movies tommorow, you ARE going out. I don't see a neccessity to commit to each other after three encounters, but if that's what you're after, go for it, some things aren't worth waiting for

[monkey00]

ok first off we might not be watching a movie today, but i will still ask her out nonetheless whenever out next encounter is.

but the thing with shy girls is that they have a different way of showing interest or attraction than a normal girl would, and with her as well as all girls...it's hard to tell!

so how do i tell w/a shy girl?

[dyermaker]

I would change "them look cute when they smile" to "you look cute when you smile"--Compliments are SUPPOSED to be personal and aimed directly at her. Take some risks, you're at the point where if she's going to say yes, she will now.