But...I dunno. I think I'm a fairly decent looking guy, but I'm also a moron when it comes to knowing if a girl is interested or not. Girls are usually MUCH more subtle than guys when checking the other sex out. I can never tell when it's happening. Hence, I don't approach them. Most of the time, anyway. Hell, if I'm drunk, I'll do just about anything, but sober, I'll have to know for damn sure that I'm not gonna be wasting my time.
But it's pretty damn obvious when I'M interested, I mean I don't oogle or drool or lick my lips or anything like that. So, why does it always have to be up to the guy? Why don't girls ever come up to me and chat me up? What gives? Maybe it's some kind of vibe I'm putting out or something. I dunno. Just once I would LOVE to be at a bar or at the mall or something and have a girl come up to me and start flirting. That's happened to me a total of ONCE in my life.
I've done it a couple of times, and my experience has been that a lot of guys just..how can i put it, can't handle it. They get flustered, embarasse, oce I approached a guy and he started putting me down and making inapporpriate comments. I knowit is the 21st century, but i wonder if some guys, deep down inside, think that any woman who approaches him first must be loose...does this make sense? Consequently, it has been quite a while since I made the first move...
i don't normally approach guys per se, but if i want somebody to come up to me, i'll catch his eyes and smile - it's up to him from there.
or if it's not a total stranger but somebody in my class or smth, i'll just ask him a question - i.e. give him a chance to talk to me - but again, it's up to him to take it from there.
incidentally - i did that to a guy maybe a two months ago, and he only came up to me last week - i wonder what's up with that (I'm sure he saw me smile at him back then).
-yes
PS as for you, Kevin, i wonder if girls don't approach because you don't seem like the type to be too shy to approach yourself.
Well that doesn't seem to be much of a reason NOT go come up to me first...
Personally, I'd LOVE it for a girl to come up to me and strike up the conversation. I certainly wouldn't put her down or anything like that, I'd be all into it.
Kevin I don't know what your like at the bar or anything, but your like most guy you sit at the bar with your buddies, or hang out at the pool table, what I'm saying is pick a spot and that where you hang until closing time. Suggestion: Wander around Case the joint out. Some good looking girl at the other end of bar will never see you if your at opposite ends of the room. Believe me girls are aways checking out good looking guys when they walk by.
Suggestion 2: If you see a bunch of girls huddled together with little space to get by; kind of walk by these girls, like your tring to get through and be very polite
"Excuse me ladies. Are you ladies having a good time tonight?" Acknowledge all of them by giving them a nice sexy smile, don't just look at the prettiest girl. Believe me with politness and a smile you will get noticed. Suggestion 3 If you at the bar and a girl is just standing there by herself waiting to order a drink just say Hi ask her if she's having a good time. DON'T I repeat DON'T give her one of those corny one liners "Are you an alien? Because you just abducted my heart." This maybe your lucky year. It's leap year and women are to ask men this year. Good Luck
I know it's the 21st century and more women are being adventurous and making the 1st move. But I think most women are still old fashion when it comes to relationships. Maybe we feel our hearts are more sensitive to rejection. I don't know. The other day my bf of 6 1/2 years hinted that it's leap year and women are to propose on leap year. It's given me alot to think about. Now I know what guys must go through. I got to make this prefect and will he be blown away. Then I also have feelings that hey this is his job to propose, I'm a woman my job is to say yes and plan the wedding. Anyway I am going to make the move. But getting back to you, no don't assume because she doesn't aproach that she is not interested. The suggestions that I gave were not for you to make the first move but more for you to be noticed. I suppose sug:3 was the first move. But if you say Hi and leave it at that doesn't mean your making a move. Are you making a move on your guy friends when you say hi? I didn't think so. Just make yourself more noticed. If the pic is really you I'm sure you get noticed more then you think.
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