i literally hate helping my boyfriend with his work. am i suppose to be responsible for his work? am i selfish if i don't want to help him? if he asks me to help him and i don't want to does that make a bad person out of me? am i put here for helping him do his work? how many women help their men with their work?

[princess75]

Ok, doing anything that you dont want to is bad in a relationship. From sleeping with them to doing their work. Look, helping should be done with the heart not because "you have to" Maybe you realize he is jsut being lazy and so maybe helping them is not "doing the things for him" but, making them do it themselves. And another thing, does he help you in return? Maybe you want to do other things...instead of helping. Best thing is to talk to him about it, figure it out with him. Why it is bothering you so much, and ask him why he does that at all...
If it helps ...my ex bf ..I was always good in my stuff, like studied good, did all good and I would always give him help and energy...but because I considered him like myself. Till I got lost with my stuff and needed his help, his guidance but infortunately he didnt give it to me..adn was part of our break up. Now it is 4 months since breakup...lots of bad tihngs in the middle, but he misses me and why? For the tihngs I did for him, I had never realized I had done so much, cause It was from the heart....but now I feel I did a mistake, I should have realized this in that time only and change it. I feel like I was his mother or something and it feels horrible. I dont know, I believe you have your reasons not to help him, I have my ex bf calling me to help him with homework nowadays..and I jsut tell him I dont want to. He doesnt like it , but that is the way it is.