[TheFaithfulWife]

Having been the The Faithful Wife of a cheating husband, I can only say
Do Not get involved with a man until his first relationship is over.
If he refuses to divorce his wife, then have some self respect and move on.

The only time I have felt an affair might be justified is when the persons spouse is too ill to sustain a relationship (Comatose or a long term illness where the spouse is dying and has hung on even when not aware of surroundings)

I am back with my husband, but the damage he has done to his respect from our five sons may never be the same.
The FaithfulWife

[Benedict]

Yeah, I'm with you...

My kids didn't find out, thank God. And we are mostly past it, but it still crops up in my mind. I do not know the details like when it started, or when it ended - didn't ask, didn't want to know. All I wanted to know was if it was done. We dealt with it last May, and are doing very well, I think.

But sometimes I think the hurt will never go completely away...

[TheFaithfulWife]

Benedict,
I am in same position at the moment, back with husband. His affair was discovered in November and ended in January.
He moved out for 6 months and is now back, but the hurt is still fresh and the ability to trust him is starting to return.
Good luck to you
The faithfulwife