So here's my dilemma. I am a 23 year old male student. I have become friends with another student. We talk online often and we have classes together. She is very outgoing and innocent, and I am more shy. She has become a really good friend of mine. She always tried to involve me in social gatherings with other people and stuff like that. We help eachother out in our classes too.

I guess I started to really become interested one night after I attended a party and got very drunk. When I got home I called her (I guess just to say "hi" LOL) and she said she was worried about me and ended up staying the night on my couch. The next morning we just watched TV for a few hours and talked...which was something I had been waiting to happen for several weeks! It was at this point I figured that she may have an interest in me...but then I thought to myself, "would she have done the same for someone else?" She always says "hey dork" online and stuff which may be a sign of affection (we always tease eachother and say how dorky each of us are)

One of the problems I have is that other than her spending the night, I have never spent time with her alone. Whenever we do things, it's always in a larger group. One of the problems with this is that there is another student who is always flirting with her, and she flirts back. He doesn't seem to be her type, and I don't know if they just like to play around and joke, or if there is potential for them to date. I think she may know I like her, because when she flirts with this other guy, I kind of remove myself from the situation and try to ignore it. OK, so basically I want to ask this girl to go to the mall with me this weekend, just to hang out, in an effort to get to know her on a personal level. I want to keep it low key and not make it a date. I remember a while ago we both went out to the mall...the next day we found out that we were both at the mall, and she said, "We should go together next time."

I often wonder..if this girl really liked me, wouldn't she have made an attempt to spend time alone with me because she has an outgoing personality? But then again, I know that she is the type that tends to worry a lot and maybe she could be just as dumbfounded as I am about the situation. I am getting frustrated, feeling like there is a tug-of-war in my head because I am analyzing every thing she says and does around me in an effort to determine if she likes me or not. I need advice on what to do!

Thanks!

[dyermaker]

*frowns*

Not cool.

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