I have posted before regarding my relationship. I have been doing the no contact thing now and it does not seem to do anything, but who knows? After 4 years, 2 of which were long distance, she decides to break up. ABOUT 2 MONTHS AGO, SHE WAS READY TO GET M,ARRIED. i DID NOT WANT HER DOG IN MY BED/ sHE LOVES HER DOG. i agreed to all except that. I can not believe that she would be reluctant to marry over that. But, maybe she became a princess and must have it all her way. She says we have not been together in each others presence for 2 years, yet i call 3 hours everyday and send emails and cards and am very caring and loving towards her. because we have not been in each others presence, she says she needs to cancel any plasns to marry, she can not make a dfecision. She feels she does not know me. i have been here and she overseas, what if u CHANGED? She is not sure i love her and she is not sure that i will feel the same way. Meanwhile all i do is pledge my love and SHE Has all the assurance of my feelings i even sent 2 dozen roses for valentines and i haVE proposed. i offered to visit her now and she said that it would not clear up her decision to marry. I wOuld have to stay a month, and then maybe she will have a better idea. She may come this summer. She will see if i am rhe same as before and if she is happy with me then. But she refuses to make any promises ands now just broke up. If sdhe comes she will see me and decide if she thinks i am ACCEPTABLE. ? This girl has wanted to marry for 3 years. We were all set on doing it 2 months ago. She says she has a good job and is very happy with her friends and they travel alot and have fun. I called new years eve and her house was full of people a big party/ she says that she thinks her life there is better than here.She loves me, but will not make a decision. So she chooses to dump me and of she comes this summer, she will see if i am good enough? I RECENTLY SENT A NOTE. i TOLD HER THAT I WILL NOT WAIT TILL SHE VISITS THIS SUMMER FOR HER DECISION. I WAITED ENOUGH FOR HER TO MARRY ME. i SAID THAT IF SHE WANTS ME ,SHE SHOULD CALL ME VERY SOON ,AS I WILL SOON MOVE ON FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP. She has not responded. , I AM DOING THE NO CONTACT.WHAT DO I DO? .JOHNNYWINNER

[SoleMate]

i TOLD HER THAT I WILL NOT WAIT TILL SHE VISITS THIS SUMMER FOR HER DECISION. I WAITED ENOUGH FOR HER TO MARRY ME. i SAID THAT IF SHE WANTS ME ,SHE SHOULD CALL ME VERY SOON ,AS I WILL SOON MOVE ON FROM THIS RELATIONSHIP. She has not responded. , I AM DOING THE NO CONTACT.WHAT DO I DO?

Prepare yourself for a life without her. The dog doesn't sound like a valid reason. A woman who loves you will ask Rover to sleep on the rug for your sake. You've been doing everything to keep the relationship alive, and she has been putting energies elsewhere. So, I think it's over.

I would never dream of suggesting that you poison the dog to solve this problem. Maybe you should ask her to bring the dog to visit you for a month and then you will make your decision as to whether the dog is acceptable.

Sorry, but take your love elsewhere.

[dyermaker]

If you agreed to sleep with Fido, she'd bring up something else. She's trying to sabotage the relationship, and feels that instead of communicating with you that she is happier without you, she'd rather keep testing your tolerance until you give up. She wants you to go, make it easier on both of you, and oblige.