[HurtinginVA]

1 cup consideration

1 cup courtesy

2 cupfuls flattery carefully concealed

1 gallon faith and trust in each other

2 cupfuls praise

1 small pinch of in-laws

1 reasonable budget, a generous dash of cooperation

3 teaspoon pure extract of "I'm sorry"

1 cup contentment

1 cup each confidence and encouragement

1 large or several small hobbies

1 cup blindness to the other's faults



Flavor with frequent portions of recreation and a dash of happy memories. Stir well and remove any specks of jealousy, temper or criticism. Sweeten well with generous portions of love and keep warm with a steady flame of devotion. Never serve with cold shoulder.


What would YOUR recipe be? What do you think are the most important "ingredients" for a happy, healthy marriage? Is any one quality or trait more important than the other? Or is it all about personal preferences, i.e. some will value commitment over affection or financial stability over emotional intimacy......Just trying to see what other people think

[quankanne]

don't go to bed angry with each other

lay some ground rules about fighting -- my personal one is to have told my husband that no matter how pissed I get at him, that doesn't mean I love him any less. Just am pissed, and that will eventually subside.

[Thinkalot]

Let bygones be bygones and dont dredge up old greivances.