Is it ok for a guy to masturbate alot?How come a guy would masturbate to his x pics if hes married isnt he getting sexually aroused by wife?doesnt she satisfy him if he masturbates alot and to a pic thats not of her?

[dyermaker]

Yes, it's okay. Yes, it's healthy. No, he does not have an emotional connection to his x pics. No, masturbating to porn does not neccessarily mean he isn't aroused by you.

1) I believe it is healthy for a man to masturbate, but about doing it alot when he's married, I don't think it's really healthy.
2) Masturbating with his pics x??? I personally don't think that's healthy, I don't even think that's appropriate, maybe you can't control him what kind of sexual fantasy he has but I definitely would not want my husband to be thinking about another woman (especially his x) sexually while he's married to me.
3) He is most likely still aroused by you even if he is watching porn. But I really think that if the man is sexually satisfied with his lover, he should not be masturbating alot with porn and his x photos.

[Arabess]

If MY man did that.....I would either hone up on my sexual skills.....or tell him to kiss my A$$!!!!! Porn would be one thing.....pics of the EX.....NO .....NADA......NOT ACCEPTABLE!!!!

[dyermaker]

Oh! I thought you meant "X" pics, like "XXX" pics, Like, Porn. He's masturbating to his X? That's ridiculous, lay down the line, how inappropriate.

[spencer]

Here's a solution


Make the picture disappear

well some people masturbate but it sounds like hes not getting satisfied by his wife if he feels the need to do it to a photo of an ex....that is disrespectful to his wife.

[Venéa]

Masturbating to his ex's pictures...that is really twisted. So disrespectful - there HAS to be a serious problem for someone to do that.

If my boyfriend ever did that, oh he wouldn't have anything left to masturbate with.

[dyermaker]

Originally posted by Venéa
If my boyfriend ever did that, oh he wouldn't have anything left to masturbate with.

That's not EVEN funny.

[Venéa]

Originally posted by dyermaker
That's not EVEN funny.

You don't seriously believe I would dismember my loved ones' manhood do you?

Although, man would I be pissed off! Probably to do with the problems I have with his ex's......

[Arabess]

Originally posted by Venéa
If my boyfriend ever did that, oh he wouldn't have anything left to masturbate with.

Yes Dyer....I understand those are words men do not want to hear! The ulitmate threat!!!!!! The "Fear of Bobbit"......TFF!

I agree Venea.

[wideawake]

Using pics of an x (lover, gf, bf) as sexual stimulus WAY out of bounds.

Obviously this person has some unresolved issues, and I'm not sure I would even bother sticking around to see how they dealt with them.

wouldnt it also be degrading if he tells his ex he thinks of her while having sex with the wife?when asked wife wouldnt like it if she knew he stated no she wouldnt and she doesnt know and wont

[Benedict]

I like Arabess' idea: hone up on the ol' skills

If it truly the "ex-", then replace them with pictures of YOU!! That to me is entirely acceptable as a response to completely unacceptable behavior...

If you actually mean "xxx" as generic porn, well, not so bad. I'd still replace it with - or add to it with - pictures of yourself.

If I found pictures of my wife hidden in a place she meant me to find them, I would be overjoyed - as well as a nimber of other, less mentionable states of excitement! That would truly be a treat. I am very lucky; after seven years, she still really revs my engine (I even still peek at her while she's changing, lol).

Bottom line: I guess I'd try to turn it into a positive before I made it into a problem that is huge.

[dyermaker]

Originally posted by Guest2004
wouldnt it also be degrading if he tells his ex he thinks of her while having sex with the wife?when asked wife wouldnt like it if she knew he stated no she wouldnt and she doesnt know and wont

Beyond degrading, it's harrassment, and he shouldn't be in a relationship with either of them.