[Lost dog]

Hi people ! Im new here . Anyways , I will get straight to my problem . I am 20 going on 21 in a couple of days and I'm interested in this 16 year old girl . She works at the same as me , an A&W restaurant (kind of like mcdonalds)

Before Xmas , I started talking to her more and trying to get to know her. I got her email and we chat whenever we have the chance . I admit that I always start the conversation so maybe I should wait and see if she talks first . If she does , this would mean that she has a minimum of interest in me , right ???

The problem is that we dont really see each other very often ,like almost never but we chat a lot. Anyhow,for xmas , I got her chocolates and she seemed to like that so I thought I was doing pretty good until I asked her out to see a movie....

Heres the story of how that went :

She had just finished worked and we walked to the movies which is close to our restaurant . We get to the movies and we see that the movie we wanted to see started 15 minutes ago . Im my head , I didnt care , i still wanted to see the movie , but then she starts talking about catching her next bus to go home !!! In my heart , i was so dissapointed because I thought (and I still do) that that was the sign that she was not interested in me after all .

Well anyways , at this point , we decided ...wait a minute , I DECIDED that we wuld go to a nice coffee place .We get there and we sit down and it was incredibly awkward because shes not looking at me , and she seems bored . I ask her if she wants anything , she says shes not hungry . I ask if she wants a coffee or anything else and she says no thanks . After some 2 minutes of painful and weird silence , I decided that we should leave .

In my opinion , we had more fun walking to the bus stop as we were talking about stuff and laughing . anyways , days after that bad impression , I sent her emails and she stopped responding to them whereas she used to reply to them all the time . Now she just reads them and thats it . I know she reads them because I would ask her if she got my last email . When I was talking to her on the chat , I told her that I was sorry that I came on to her too strong and aknowledged it. And then get this , I ask her if I still have a chance with her , and then she says , ...well , let time pass a bit and maybe then , well see .

Please ,ladies , help me out with this .Tell me whats going on exactly . Does she just want to be friends ? Does she hate me ?

Please!!

well... i don't think she hates you. i think she's scared and very unsure of what she should do... i'm 26 myself, but when i was 16, i did confuse many guys with my insecure behavior. besides, you're a bit older than her, and that might scare her too... you live in a different world from her, or so it seems to her, and that must be intimidating. i think that she is also scared that you're thinking of sex and are experienced, whereas she at a disadvantage of being younger, and perhaps not too clear on how she would react if you proposed such a thing. besides, considering you took some initiatives here and there, she might just be thinking that you are out to get some... it all depends, on her friends and what they think, on her attitude, on her age... some girls don't know what they want and if they are interested for years...

what you can do is to make it clear what you want with her... dating makes us all so confused... it never gets any clearer than this. but as long as you know where you stand, i think it just might work with time.

I dont think she hates you, but i thinks shes immature. I know because i act the same....she probably wants to keep you on the line for a while...like see how much abuse youll take....i think you should leave her alone for a while and when she sees ur not into games then shell be back. after all she is 16 and ur 21

[Cass33]

well, im 16 too. And i think that maybe shes not sure what she wants. In my opionion, i would definitaly talk 2 my friends about going out with an older guy. Maybe they said somethig to her that turned her off, or she even came to some silly conclusion. She DOesnt hate you, but maybe shes trying to see just how much she really likes u. My advice is give her a little space (not so0o much that she tinks yer avoiding her though) but just enough to let her think....