I was at a party last night for NEW YEARS at a friends house and as I watching people makeout and boyfriends and girlfriends makingout, and as watching the ball drop, I figured this was going to be another year of being single I can just feel it. What do you suggest I do about this negativity?
You guys in you're early 20's agonising over being alone the rest of your lives! Wait 30 years, then we'll talk agony!
It sounds like you've been educated to do what you love, but doubt you'll find soulmates at the pizza joint. Begin doing more pro-bono graphic design for the many charitable NYC organizations and meet wealthy (handsome?) philanthropists.
Don't let the season get you down! It'll be over soon.
SEe you don't seem to understand. I am 22 and will be 23 in afew months if I am lucky, but I have not dated since 17, which gives me the feeling like I will never be wanted by no one and always be lonely. Sometimes I do go out, but I don't meet people very well or if I do they end up saying negative nasty stuff to me to bring down my self esteem even more.
I hope I don't go through life being single, but I just want to get ride of this negativity with always thinking I will be single. My luck has not been too great so far as that is why I am so negative about it.
My dad didn't find the love of his life until his mid-fifties. Never give up!
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I won't give up, but it would just be nice to find a decent guy. But I will get out more this year and try to meet new people. Maybe I might have some luck.
Agreed that you have never dated during your adult life, and that this does add more than a little to your pessimism (depression?).
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will be 23 in afew months if I am lucky
Within the context of your recent threads and posts, this could be interpreted to be more than just dark humor, but that's how I'll read it.
Obviously, I was hoping that reading DARKANGELISM would act as evidence that you're not alone, but I'm sure that misery loving company is not what you're after.
Within a separate thread you mentioned that you really didn't care what others thought about you, yet here you say:
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they end up saying negative nasty stuff to me to bring down my self esteem even more.
Apparently, you do care when other's express themselves, at least when it is negative
Do you think it could be that you're not acknowledging other's when they have positive things to say? I've found this to be an extraordinarily common phenomena among people, including myself.
So many ladies and nobody for Curt,
So tempting his senses, like sensual desserts,
Wriggling and giggling in cute little skirts,
Hearts like angels, driving him berserk?
He looks at the clock and it ticks past the two,
Takes the big tissues and cries boo hoo hoo hoo,
Finding no chocolate on which he could chew,
Settles for bread rolls and a yummy home stew.
His heart grows bigger, his mind goes fuzzy,
And generally he starts to feel quite awful and crummy.
He slips into bed, the blankets he cuddles,
And hopes for the new year to climb out of the rubble.
CD
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"You can't exactly control the way you feel, but you can contain it."
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"Wise are they who have learned these truths - trouble is temporary, time is a tonic, tribulation is a test tube."
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Seems to me that, when last heard from, you were harbouring a fairly strong torch for an unaccessible
lady which would make you not exactly 'in the market', as it were. Has that situation changed?
Another thread, derailed and blown to hell: Oh well
Oh, daytime hustler, you better look away.
Because I won't play your game no more.
No, no more, no.
You spend all of your money
on those other women
who are blind enough to buy your shame.
All your sha-a-a-a-a-ame, oh, oh, oh.
Well...I Don't Think The Boat Ever Came to My Proverbial "Dock" Anyways
Thanks for the reference Moimeme!
and [color=red]CONGRATULATIONS JENNY!!![/color] You're an intelligent, romantic, and caring lady. I'm so glad you found true love. Sounds like you both have good heads on your shoulders.
ah..welcome to the singles club. I have dated, but I guarantee I am not in a much better position than you! However, I think we just have to play the waiting game..as everybody says..our time will come...unfortunately I am one of the most impatient people ever!
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Wait 30 years, then we'll talk agony!
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