Is this normal?

Colt2187 · 31st December 2003, 5:03 PM

Here's something I worry about everyday. Well let me explain my habbits so this makes sense. I usually get involved with something, for example a project. I get really involved with this example project and then lose interest after a while.

So if I get involved w/ a girl and have all these great feelings (always thinking of that girl, wanting to be around her all the time, wanting to talk to her all the time, etc...) will these feelings go away; fade away over time? Is there a way I can get myself out of this habbit of mine? I mean I don't want to get to know a girl and then after a while just get bored w/ her, no girl (or guy) deserves that. Is this a normal feeling that couples go through?

The reason I'm asking this is because I've never been in a reltaionship w/ a girl past "just a friend" or "talking buddy".

I don't know.... maybe it's just me b/c my dad is the same way w/ things (possibly an inherited trait)

tattoomytoe · 31st December 2003, 5:07 PM

well you get bored with the project or the girl then move on. that is what dating is for, just do not be mean.

Colt2187 · 31st December 2003, 5:15 PM

Seems kind of harsh....... I guess I still have a lot to learn about dating.

katy_katt · 31st December 2003, 5:17 PM

Do you do this to other people? Like, do you get bored with your friends, family members, other people in your life? If not, I don't think you'd get bored with a relationship as long as you compatible with her in some way.

Colt2187 · 31st December 2003, 5:21 PM

I do this sometimes with friends who annoy me, but other than that, no.

AllyKat · 31st December 2003, 5:21 PM

Lets face it the honeymoon period eventually fades and reality sets in. If you truly loved any of the people you are talking about, you wouldnt just dump them because youre bored. In that case, just date, nothing serious though with anyone. Dont become a heartbreaker.

Colt2187 · 31st December 2003, 5:24 PM

Quote:

If you truly loved any of the people you are talking about, you wouldnt just dump them because youre bored

That's true

monkey00 · 1st January 2004, 12:59 AM

let's face it, our flaw is being human.

human grow bore of things too easily, video games, music...etcetera

SoleMate · 1st January 2004, 1:28 AM

It is hard to get bored with a truly interesting person. A person is not like a board game or a video that is static and unchanging. The other person should be growing and developing, so they can show you new sides of themselves and all their infinite and newly created variety. Same with you, too, by the way.

So NO...you do not have to get bored. Some say that only boring people can be bored.

Think about it.