[amimal]

Hello All,

was hoping someone could help me understand and cope with watching my ex-girlfriend begin dating someone 3 weeks after we broke up? I wish I could get through to her and let her understand what a REBOUND is, but I guess you could say she is not the most independent of girls...and she refuses to beleive that this may be a rebound relationship

It really confuses and upsets me, that she can't sit on her own and reflect over the 1.5 years on HER OWN.

Especially because the breakup wasn't because we were not amazing together, but because of he rcurrently not being able to get over the religious and cultural differences???

So she has to start dating a guy of her culture and faith right after...

I still love her and don't at all doubt she loves me..(there are things you can still feel, and when she does let her guard down, I see and here her real emotions) but she will do anything to block things out.


Any time we have gotten close since we broke up, the next day is a nightmare and I'm getting pushed away even harder


I know she cares, but why isn't this affecting her as much or how can she block it all out and move on so quick if things were so good???

Is there anyway thank one person can help another person realize that they are entering a rebound relationship?

I don't even want her back right now, I just wish she would take time to figure out what has happenned ove rthe past year and a half


Thanks

[AnGeLic_gAL]

hey i think that ur ex-GF is acting practical...she has realized that the relationship
can't bring further happiness to u both....coz one way or the other, she wants
a person who is of the same religion and culture as she is...she knows her nature
really well......thats why she has changed her path......and i know how hurting it
is to leave the one u love, but friend my advice for u wud be to try hard to forget
her....this is the same advice i've been giving to my very close friend who is going
through the same situation but she won't listen to me....she says that she can
get ahold of her actions and won't meet him but she can't stop herself from
thinking about him.....she is helpless about that!!! (i disagree with her on this
thing)

Listen friend, life is a gift of GOD, u have the right to like someone, but u can't
bound him/her......and if situations like these appear, then its better to leave
everything to circumstances and see wat future brings for u! u've tried ur best
to make her understand that u love her...thats all u can do!!

if u think she loves u too, then try thinking positive that it might have brought
a lot of troubles for u both in the future, so may be its better to separate ur paths
at the moment before its even more late.....

If u really love her, then set her free, if she comes back , then she was yours,
and if not then it was never meant to be!!

its only u who can help urself...try thinking positive and make urself too busy
to think anything else other than ur work.....In future, it might be possible that u come
across another girl of the same religion as yours and who wud be better than
ur ex-GF..........everything happens for good!!

Friend, make urself strong enough to stand against this situation rite now...for
its only YOU who can help urself!!!!!!!!!!!!
Best of Luck for ur future,
i'll pray for u that everything turns out to be good for u...

~AnGeLiCa

Originally posted by AnGeLic_gAL
hey i think that ur ex-GF is acting practical...she has realized that the relationship
can't bring further happiness to u both....coz one way or the other, she wants
a person who is of the same religion and culture as she is...she knows her nature
really well......thats why she has changed her path......and i know how hurting it
is to leave the one u love, but friend my advice for u wud be to try hard to forget
her....this is the same advice i've been giving to my very close friend who is going
through the same situation but she won't listen to me....she says that she can
get ahold of her actions and won't meet him but she can't stop herself from
thinking about him.....she is helpless about that!!! (i disagree with her on this
thing)

Listen friend, life is a gift of GOD, u have the right to like someone, but u can't
bound him/her......and if situations like these appear, then its better to leave
everything to circumstances and see wat future brings for u! u've tried ur best
to make her understand that u love her...thats all u can do!!

if u think she loves u too, then try thinking positive that it might have brought
a lot of troubles for u both in the future, so may be its better to separate ur paths
at the moment before its even more late.....

If u really love her, then set her free, if she comes back , then she was yours,
and if not then it was never meant to be!!

its only u who can help urself...try thinking positive and make urself too busy
to think anything else other than ur work.....In future, it might be possible that u come
across another girl of the same religion as yours and who wud be better than
ur ex-GF..........everything happens for good!!

Friend, make urself strong enough to stand against this situation rite now...for
its only YOU who can help urself!!!!!!!!!!!!
Best of Luck for ur future,
i'll pray for u that everything turns out to be good for u...

~AnGeLiCa

[Scott S]

was hoping someone could help me understand and cope with watching my ex-girlfriend begin dating someone 3 weeks after we broke up? I wish I could get through to her and let her understand what a REBOUND is, but I guess you could say she is not the most independent of girls...and she refuses to beleive that this may be a rebound relationship

It really confuses and upsets me, that she can't sit on her own and reflect over the 1.5 years on HER OWN.

Not to sound unsympathetic, but it seems to me that it's for HER to decide whether she wants to jump right into another relationship, reflect on her own, enter a convent, or anything else.

Just as it's ultimately YOUR choice how YOU cope.

[netrie]

Originally posted by amimal

I don't even want her back right now, I just wish she would take time to figure out what has happenned ove rthe past year and a half

Sounds to me that you DO want her back----and you might be a little "controlling" too.

Hang in there!