[werty]

i dont understand.. she talked to me nicely just tonight but she wanted me to promise her that this would be the last time were gona talk? why is this so?????

[yogi-mon]

you have left out so many details that it is impossible to give you any kind of response beyond this one.

[werty]

ok.. so she called.. we broke up nicely as possible.. we didnt cry, we didnt argue with anything.. i was just listening to what she wants to happen.. now she said that this is over.. but she also said that its better we leave each other the "no contact" relationship forever if possible... she said she wanted this setup because it would be much easier for both of us to let go of each other when that person is not around.. but why does it have to be like this? i cant do anything but to agree with it.. and i have to live by this "no contact" relationship... anyone care to help me understand why this relationship has to end like that? why do we want to forget each other? can it really be done this way? if we were special with each other, why forget? why stop the feelings if ever there was still some left? or does it mean theres none already?

just pls help me understand this kind of situation now.... thanks....

[werty]

anyone have her views pls?

[BrainRightHeartWrong]

werty i think the only thing you can do and this is going to be hard for you is to tell her that you completely agree with the no-contact rule...

if you suggest that staying in contact is better it will probably make her more determined

i feel for you dude, i am going through a similiar situation now myself and wondering how best to go through this terrible hurtful process

good luck

[werty]

dont really know what her plans are, but its wat she wanted... if i would be able to hold this "no contact" thing even on holidays & special occasions, do u think what would she feel like most women does when ur Xs wont communicate with you?