[red-rose-in-winter]

This is more of a poll than a marriage question:
How many of you out there that are married feel like your single friends kind of leave you out when they go out and do things together?
I have been married for over 2 years now, and it seems like my two (single) best friends go do things on weekends without me.
They work at the same place now (since the summer), and they go places without calling me up and asking if I'd like to go!
Maybe it is easier to just go on short notice because they work at the same place. If they decide to go out to eat, they go! I'm not really upset. Maybe they like to spend time together.
It's just like when one of my friends and I worked at the same place (in the past), we ALWAYS called the other friend up and asked if she'd like to join us. I would feel bad to leave the other friend out.
Maybe it's because I'm married now and they want to go talk to guys. I was just wondering if anyone out there had any insight into this. I guess single and married people kind of drift apart slightly after one of them gets married.

[Kat]

I have found that the friends I used to have stopped calling when I moved in with my partner. Maybe because they were no longer my 'number one' friend anymore, but like I care.

I have found that friends who lose touch, don't call, and just don't care anymore, aren't worth it, no matter how much you thought they were friends.

I am happy with my partner, we sit at home on weekends just doing 'stuff'. We occasionally go out wirh work mates, but all the friends we used to have (we both have the same circle of friends and used to go from party to party each week) have just stopped inviting us anywhere, or including us in anything. There are still a few who don't call, but if we see them or something, they say hello and enjoy a catch up chat, others just don't care or make comments about us and if we are happy being 'a married couple'

I gained a best friend and lost a **** load of fake friends. No biggy

[HokeyReligions]

Before I was married I used to hang out with some friends a lot. As each of us dated we would slow down our times together, then get back in the swing of things as we broke up and became "single" again. Even after one got married she would hang out with us, but as time went on she found that the things she was interested in talking about -- experiences of being a wife -- were things we really couldn't relate to, and she couldn't really relate to our "singles" conversations as much. We just drifted apart naturally. After I got married it was the same way. We all went on to make new friends who had more in common with our life styles -- mainly other couples.

Why not give them a call and initiate a girls-night out?

[red-rose-in-winter]

Actually, we all got together on Christmas Eve and exchanged gifts and had a delicious dinner together. I also invited them to go ice skating with me and my husband sometime in January, so I'm trying not to lose touch with them.
I think it's important to have a balance between having friends and a husband.

[LondonGirl101]

Hi
I agree with this one big time
I have only been married for a year now, but I really feel out of the loop

I am very conscious I have no idea how they live their lives half the time. I was with my husband for 5 years before we got hitched and I'm only 26 so I have no idea what it's like to be "single and out there"....

I suppose we just have to remember and be grateful that we have our husbands to come home to at the end of the day and try not to come across as 'smug marrieds' like in Bridget Jones's Diary!!