[Quixotic_Dancer]

I have a profile posted on one of the big dating, match-up sites. It's been up for two months, and so far I'm a little disappointed with the results. I've had dates with 3 guys, which were pleasant enough, but there was no real connection with any of them.

I've emailed several guys after reading their profiles, but only a couple have responded. A male friend of mine just looked at my profile...he said that my picture was very good, but that my profile would intimidate guys!

In that profile, I focus on the fact that I'm very adventurous, and that I just completed a year-long, solo back-packing trip through Africa and Asia. I'm so, so proud of that trip, and I thought it would make me sound interesting. I even write in my profile that I have tons of good stories from that trip.

My friend said that most guys would feel intimidated after reading about my adventures, would wonder, he said, how they could compete with that! He said I should take all that information out, hold it back until I get to know somebody. But...for the first time in my life, I came to love myself on that trip. It healed so many old wounds. It's so essential to my conception of myself, I don't want to leave it out!

I know that I'm immediately interested in learning more about anyone who's traveled like I have. I suppose I was hoping to attract someone who felt the same way about me. However, I emailed one single guy who wrote about taking a trip very similar to mine, and backpacking all over Africa--and he didn't reply! So, maybe my friend is right. What do you think?