Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
I work in a place where it’s mostly me my boss and this girl and guy.
Anyway, this girl who I’ve worked with for over a year is so beautiful and has treated me as a friend but is also very flirty pokes me and keeps telling me that I’m handsome. She calles me a bad boy and I call her a bad girl ect....
I’m obsessed with this girl but she is married and has just had her second baby. Anyway this guy I work with who is also a friend at work gives her a ride every day because her husband is a truck driver and she has no licenses. They are both Mexican and very good friends. He was in love with her way before I started working there and he still is but he is married also.
Anyway, I am so jealous lately because I’ve noticed that she is always following him around and sometimes they despair for 30 mint’s at a time and it's like my boss don't even notice. I’m getting sick just talking about it.
This girl has made me feel so close to her in the past year and she keeps telling me I have nice eyes but sometimes it seems like she is ignoring me at the end of the day. For example when we are all getting ready to leave and her back is to me I say goodbye across the room it's like she dosen't hear me yet her friend standing next to her says good by and she diden't even turn around. What should I think?
Half the time I never know what the three are saying because both girls and this guy speak in Spanish. The new girl is a temp by the way.
This new girl there has also hit on me a lot and she is very cute but I am so crazy about this girl who I feel is a fake now. This guy who is my friend at work and looks out for me locks the doors when we all leave and he rides her home "everyday". I've taken her home a few times when he was sick.
She was always in such a hurry to get home to meet her babysitter but these last two weeks it almost seems as though they are both taking their time waiting for me to leave. even my boss made a comment to me on the side asking me if they left after me.
I am so crazy about her and he was a friend and I’m starting to hate them both.
I don't even want to talk to them and I feel sick now
What signs should I look for to see if they really are cheating?
Last edited by Nik2; 21st December 2003 at 11:24 PM..
But what do you mean it’s none of my business? It’s no more his business then it is mine, after all she is/was my friend also
Ya I guess it’s not my business but it still hurts when someone you like f…cks with your mind making you think they care about you and then blows you off. Sorry man but it's a $hity feeling
Anyway, from what I said doses it sound likes they are messing around? anyway this guy allways tells me he is my buddy, why would he not be up front with me?
Last edited by Nik2; 22nd December 2003 at 12:11 AM..
Dude, what’s with your tone? You make it sound like I don’t belong here. Again just why is it not my business?
As you said your not a native speaker, it sounds to me like you may be looking out for you own.
If you noticed the name of this forum is called Jealousy and flirting, why doses he have the right to be concerned about her and not me? Is he a better human then me?
I've worked with this girl for a year and she has flirted and led me to believe she cared for me as a friend and they grows.
Explain your self, Your comments did me no good and your tone was rude
Last edited by Nik2; 22nd December 2003 at 5:01 PM..
You were right it’s not my business, I am sorry for what I said to you above.
She is married and I have no right to keep tabs on her, it is her husband’s business.
I was wrong and upset because of the way she has made me feel over this last year.
Truth is I feel sorry for her husband who is out driving a truck everyday while she flirts. This guy that gives her a ride at my work who I was jealous of tells her things against what her husdbands says like he will tell her not to put up with his $hit.
I guess her husdband beleaves that she should stay home with the two kids one being a new baby girl and he has every right to say that.
This guy at my work is wrong for telling her to not put up with his $hit just becouse he wants her to come to work.
I am also wrong for acting like she belonged to me, but I fell into the trap.
I even left work today because I was so upset at her and everyone but you are absolutely correct.
I just didn’t see it because I was being selfish and I was and still am sad.
I’ll do my best to view her as just an employee for now on. Thanks for pointing that out to me.
Sometimes life can really be sad and I have some hang-ups that can make my world black and white sometimes.
Last edited by Nik2; 22nd December 2003 at 11:57 PM..
Glad you kinda woke up. Just remember that last post your made. She sounds like she has quite a bit of problems spreading her love. If you were to get involved with her, it would be hard to trust her and your jealousy now would turn into a controlling behavior. Find someone to go out with, doesnt have to mean its your future gf. Just someone to take your mind off of her. When my ex-fiancee left I thought my world ended. But I was so wrong. My new gf is 10000 times better than my ex, and never been happier.
She doses spared love. I don’t know what is considered flirting but, she doses things like poke me in the stomach, grab my cheek but she doses that to other people.
What to hear something funny?
I was so cold this thursday to her and this guy that gives her a ride, that I felt the need to bring her a cake on friday make up and say sorry to everyone for being in such a bad mood. But then I always bring in pie and give stuff to people there:
Anyway this thursday also happend to be her birthday.
I got pissed off about something this guy was saying and out loud I said “I hope she brings a small piece of cake to her husband”
I'm sure you know what I meant by that, he sure did.
after he told her that she looked suprised I said that.
Anyway, my so called buddy who gives her a ride just had to go back and repeat that to her. I called him a f..cking ass hole becouse he got tough with me and because it seems lately that any time he has an opportunity to make me look bad to the girls he will and since he speaks in spanish I can't defend myself.
I guess the reason I’m really staring to hate this guy ( My so called Friend) is because he talks so much $hit about her husband. Like he makes fun of her husbands age in front of her and she thinks it’s funny or doses not seem to mind him saying that. She must not respect her man.
I’m glad I said what I said about her saving a piece of cake for her husband, maybe it will make her realize that I don’t respect her as being a good woman.
This guy has no respect for her husband and tells her to not put up with his $hit. In the mean time her husband who can’t give her a ride is out busting his ass driving a truck for a living. I just can’t be friends with people like this.
But like you said, there was nothing there anyways so I really shouldn’t worry. Anyway I really need to learn Spanish so I can her what the girls and this guy are saying half the time.
Last edited by Nik2; 24th December 2003 at 12:47 AM..
Ohhh! Please Please run! This girl is no good. Im not trying to be rude..but you need to get over her. She isnt yours, you really cant be jealous. This other guy, he also needs a reality check. I mean, she is married and has children!! I doubt anyone would want to be the reason to break up a marriage!
Bottom line, she is married. Im sure she is flirty because alot of people do that just for attention. They have low self esteem. Please dont play her game! If your friend is....(I so hate cheaters)...he needs to stop.
Im glad you are doing better about this. But, to leave work earlier? I mean come on, imagine what her and her husband do together?! Really, you are playing with fire and it seems you have already gotten in too far. Let it go, if she were for you, she definately wouldnt be married, or flirty with other men.
Your friend? Dont hate him because he is making fun of this girls husband, I mean at one point you had ulterior motives, right? It seems to me you are jealous and it will be best for your friend and you when this "woman" leaves.
No respect to you, I just dont like people holding fire in their hands and not trying to put it out.
You are so right AllyKat, and it will be let go.
By the way, I’m not so much upset at this guy because of what he says about her husband.
I’m more upset about the stuff he says at times about me to the girls to make me look foolish but that’s off topic anyway.
In all honesty, what dyermaker said has made me resize to think about her husband and not just myself.
Don't worry the fire is dying.
By the way AllyKat, if that’s you in that picture to the left, You are a very…very….very cute girl!
Last edited by Nik2; 24th December 2003 at 1:03 AM..
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I mean I will not play her game.
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